A Jewish wedding in Edinburgh

[Jock Scot]

I wonder if any one can help? My wife and I have been invited to a Jewish wedding in Edinburgh and as neither of us have ever been to a Jewish wedding before, we are anxious to respect our hosts and of course the Jewish customs. I hasten to add that we are delighted to have been asked and we are delighted to accept the invitation.

Now without going into great detail, is any one going to object if I wore the kilt, as I would normally, to the wedding? Are there any major do's and don'ts at a Jewish((Scots) wedding that we should be aware of? A question that I know my wife would like to ask is:-Are women invited to the service and is there any part of the service that is men only?

Thanks in advance, Mr. & Mrs. "Jock"

[Kerr the Walker]

I recently attended a Jewish wedding here in the States where the groom and his best man were kilted. I would say go for it!

[edit] Both men and women were at the service I went to and there was no separation in the seating plan at all. [/edit]

[PiobBear]

I've piped several Jewish weddings (one or the other was Irish or Irish American). I don't think anyone would be mind the kilt; they all seemed like very easy-going folks. The one's I've attended were Reform, and women attended with their men. I hear Hasidic traditions are much different; when in doubt, it's always my policy to ask. I've never hurt anyone's feelings by asking for clarification on protocol ahead of time.

[Kilted Rogue]

Poibear has it about right. the reformed and conservative jews do sit together at Temple the orthodox and hasidic jews separate the sexes. If the wedding is going to be at the temple than you can just look up that temple and see what is it, orthodox conservative or reformed. the likely hood of it being hasidic is not to likely. as a jew my self i would say go kilted, if i ever make it back to temple( not likely ) i will go kilted every Saturday. If you wear a Tam or bonnet you will not have to wear a Yamaka cause your head is already covered(Bonus)!!!

if i can be any more help just ask

Billy

[gilmore]

Jock,

Would you please keep an eye out for which tartans the kilts are? It's so helpful having a roving fashion reporter in Scotland.

[beloitpiper]

First thing is to ask if they don't mind the kilt. It's not good to outdress the bride!

Other than that, I'm sure they'll let you know what to do, but honestly it's not all that different from a Christian wedding.

[Arlen]

It will be A LOT like any wedding you've been to before and no one will object to your Kilt wearing.
Ask those who invited you if they would like you to wear a Kippah. (If the wedding is taking place in the Synagogue they usually will. Or they will tell you what type of headgear they would like you to wear.)

Since you're there as a guest you won't have to take part in the ceremony at all, but if they want you to take part in any of the after party traditions they will usually explain these things to all of the non-Jewish guests.


Just have fun. Jewish weddings are great and I can honestly say I have never been to one where there wasn't at least one Kiltie present other than myself.


Good luck!

[Darkislander]

You may find the food a wee bit different if they are serving kosher. I have found it a bit on the salty side and I've been to around 6 occasions.

[McFarkus]

First thing is to ask if they don't mind the kilt. It's not good to outdress the bride!

Other than that, I'm sure they'll let you know what to do, but honestly it's not all that different from a Christian wedding.

Ditto! Check with the bride.

[Tattoo Bradley]

First thing is to ask if they don't mind the kilt. It's not good to outdress the bride!

Other than that, I'm sure they'll let you know what to do, but honestly it's not all that different from a Christian wedding.

Ditto! Check with the bride.

Seeing as Jock is about the most "Poster Child' for a kilted gentleman, I don't think this will be an issue what-so-ever.