Tartan choice for wedding?

**csbdr** · 17th April 09, 11:39 AM

Need an opinion....My brother in law is getting married in October. I was planning on wearing my MacEwan Ancient (with the blessings of the couple) as a guest. Can't wait to get it from Matt!! I'm not in the wedding party (thank goodness!) anyway, my wife recently learned from her grandmother that they are MacCrea, and I happen to have one of Jerry's Ancient Hunting MacCrea kilts! So wondering if it would be more appropriate to wear my own family's tartan, or my wife/brother in law's? Should note that probably noone else besides myself will even notice or care. The tartans are pretty similar, and her family doesn't really pay attention to their Scottish heritage. I think it would make my wife's 98 year old grandmother happy to see me in it, though! She was tickled when we when to visit recently and i came kilted (not in her tartan though....)

**piperdbh** · 17th April 09, 11:42 AM

I like making old women happy (and have always been better at it than at making young women happy

), so I'd say wear the MacCrae, especially since she's 98.

**dfmacliam** · 17th April 09, 11:47 AM

I would wear your family tartan

**Monkey@Arms** · 17th April 09, 11:58 AM

OK. So you live in the U.S., you already own a kilt in your wife's tartan, you think it would please her elderly grandmother if you wore it, no one else in the wedding would care one way of the other. Why wouldn't you wear it (if you want to)? And whose advice on this forum would trump your own judgment on this question?

Best regards,

Jake

**lethearen** · 17th April 09, 11:59 AM

I think I'd go with mac Crea. You are part of that family now, in a way. And it'd make Gramma happy

**Jock Scot** · 17th April 09, 12:08 PM

Technically you should wear your own tartan(as you have one) and your wife should also wear your tartan too, if she chooses to wear a tartan. Your wife and her family should understand that. However, you are in the USA and things seem a little more relaxed there.

**csbdr** · 17th April 09, 12:10 PM

Oh, believe me, my own judgement will trump the opinion of the rabble. I'm just asking for opinions, not have the decision made for me.

Originally Posted by Monkey@Arms

OK. So you live in the U.S., you already own a kilt in your wife's tartan, you think it would please her elderly grandmother if you wore it, no one else in the wedding would care one way of the other. Why wouldn't you wear it (if you want to)? And whose advice on this forum would trump your own judgment on this question?

Best regards,

Jake

**csbdr** · 17th April 09, 12:14 PM

This was my gut feeling, and we were planning on having a sash made for my wife to wear after the ceremony, when she and I are together (she's in the party, as matron-of-honor, and Scottish dress is not part of the bridal party's attire....) fortunately, my tartan looks very nice next to her dress. This came up as a gesture to please her grandmother, who may not be around much longer.

Originally Posted by Jock Scot

Technically you should wear your own tartan(as you have one) and your wife should also wear your tartan too, if she chooses to wear a tartan. Your wife and her family should understand that. However, you are in the USA and things seem a little more relaxed there.

**Spartan** · 17th April 09, 12:22 PM

Which is more appropriate? Jock answered that question. However, you really can do either one. You may want to wait until you have both kilts and choose the one that you think looks the best. [Edit: my guess is that the one that Matt is making will outshine the other.] I would tend to go with the best looking kilt. Grandma will pleased either way.

If it were me, I would wear the MacRae. But, my maternal grandmother was a MacRae, and I'm a member of the Clan MacRae Society of N. A.

**macwilkin** · 17th April 09, 12:54 PM

Originally Posted by Monkey@Arms

OK. So you live in the U.S., you already own a kilt in your wife's tartan, you think it would please her elderly grandmother if you wore it, no one else in the wedding would care one way of the other. Why wouldn't you wear it (if you want to)? And whose advice on this forum would trump your own judgment on this question?

Best regards,

Jake

Respect for tradition and custom is not particular to one nationality. While I agree 100% that the ultimate decision is up to the OP in this matter, and I certainly support whatever decision he makes, I fail to see why being an American citizen trumps respecting the customs and traditions of Highland attire.

My apologies for being such and "auld crabbit" about this.

Regards,

Todd