What to wear as a kilted groom?

**MJB** · 28th February 17, 06:59 PM

So my wedding is coming up in June. I am to be kilted, and was pretty sure I knew all else I would wear until I started looking things up and getting more informed on appropriate wear at appropriate times. Now I don't know what to do!

Problem is my ceremony will be around noonish, but the cocktail hour / dinner won't be starting until 5:30 / 6:00. I was planning on going all out prince charlie / 3 button waistcoat / white shirt / black bow tie etc... Now I've recently been learnt that wearing a 'tux' during the day should NEVER be done (would a kilt / prince charlie be considered tux in this case?), and apparently some people have very strong opinions about this!

Now I definitely want to complete that outfit, but I am only to wear it in the evening during the reception? What would I wear during my ceremony? I do not have the cash to buy more than one jacket. I was thinking I could possibly wear the PC with a 5 button and necktie, maybe a less formal sporran, and then switch to the 3 button, shirt studs, bow tie and dress sporran for the evening, or is something about that weird?

Thoughts?

**Steve Ashton** · 28th February 17, 07:03 PM

Ask your bride what the level of formality is for her wedding.

If you were not wearing a kilt, and tuxedo would be appropriate, then go with Prince Charlie. Otherwise no.

The Argyle jacket is much more versatile. You can dress it up to full formal with tux shirt and black bow tie.

Later you can change to regular dress shirt an long tie for less formal.

Wear it with dress shirt & long tie but without the vest like you would a blazer or sport coat.

These are all the same jacket, kilt, and sporran.

**Father Bill** · 28th February 17, 09:23 PM

Your task is not to wear what would please any expert with the sole exception of delighting the bride. Finding a highland equivalent of Saxon wear is a mug's game - they aren't really very comparable. Please the girl during the day.

And night.

**McMurdo** · 28th February 17, 10:40 PM

As it is a day time ceremony, I would go with a tweed Argyll jacket not a Prince Charlie or a Black Argyll. Something like this

To my mind this is far more versatile than the Prince Charlie or the Black Argyll, as you say you only want to have one jacket. As far as the Black Argyll goes I personally only just purchased one, after 10 years of wearing the kilt. I only bought it because my nephew was getting married, it was later in the day and he was wearing the Prince Charlie. I did not want to wear my tartan kilt suit as I thought that might be too much so went out and got a black Argyll. If you think this is more appropriate then by all means go for it.

I will say the best thing would be to consult the bride to be, if it is to be a formal affair then the black Argyll wins the day as far as I'm concerned but if it is not formal then go with a tweed, you will get more wear from either of those than a Prince Charlie.

**gealach** · 1st March 17, 12:17 AM

Formal, not formal, fairy tale, whatever...

Surely you can wear whatever the heck you want as long as your bride to be approves. It's your wedding isn't it?

Honestly, would anybody here tell another man at his own wedding "sorry mate, you can't wear this PC before 6"?

**Jock Scot** · 1st March 17, 12:42 AM

It's your wedding so you can wear what you like, but if you want to do it properly then if it were me, I would follow McMurdo's train of thought.

**Steve Ashton** · 1st March 17, 12:47 AM

I would like you to keep in mind the one un-breakable, inviolable rule when it comes to kilts at weddings.

Never, EVER, outshine , or detract the attention away from the bride.

KISS - Keep It Simple Stupid. It is her wedding. You are just there only to make it special for her.

**Jock Scot** · 1st March 17, 01:05 AM

Originally Posted by gealach

Formal, not formal, fairy tale, whatever...

Surely you can wear whatever the heck you want as long as your bride to be approves. It's your wedding isn't it?

Honestly, would anybody here tell another man at his own wedding "sorry mate, you can't wear this PC before 6"?

Of course polite people will not say a word on the day, but that won't stop them from thinking.

Advice has been asked for and advice is being given in good faith. What the OP does with it, is entirely his choice.

**gealach** · 1st March 17, 01:22 AM

Originally Posted by Jock Scot

...Advice has been asked for and advice is being given in good faith. What the OP does with it, is entirely his choice.

Of course, Jock. Please believe me when I say that my advice was given in good faith as well.

As for that cardinal rule not to detract any attention from the bride because "it's her wedding": I think this is flawed. A wedding, in my eyes, should be about the couple and their future life together.

That's why I say, if the bride approves, wear it... KISS.