Ettiquette for young ladies

**aonghas** · 5th October 13, 03:23 PM

Not wanting to re-rail the young gentlemen thread on this subject, I would add that young and not so young ladies are also in need to understand respect in between genders and themselves.
Some have shared their rebuke when being respectful with the ladies, it is becoming common place for such happenings.
Not long ago as I was ambling a a local campus where I then taught I greeted a group of young ladies passing by, with the common Good day Ladies. Before another pace was stepped one of the group berated me with "I am not a **** lady".
Well most of you know that I am not an educated person and it shows. Creator forgive me for what follows.
Before my rational mind could think my mouth responded "Well you know yourself better than I"
I carried on with a now speechless but literally fuming young lady, when she got control of her voice she proved that she was right and I was wrong.
Sometimes young men are just responding to their surroundings, but they still should give respect a first chance though.

**aonghas** · 5th October 13, 03:26 PM

Mods please rewrite the title as Young Ladies, typing with no glasses apologies.

**Carlo** · 5th October 13, 07:51 PM

There is always the obvious one. Don't put your hand under my kilt without my approval.

**OrneryPiper** · 5th October 13, 08:10 PM

Before my rational mind could think my mouth responded "Well you know yourself better than I"

An excellent reply Sir!

**Hawk** · 5th October 13, 08:49 PM

Well done my Mohawk Relative........you left the ball in her court.

Hawk

**piperdbh** · 5th October 13, 08:57 PM

There are probably online fora to discuss this very topic, but I submit that the term "lady" has taken on a connotation that some younger females might not be comfortable with, which is not what many users of the term intend. To my way of thinking, "lady" means a woman who is in full control of herself, makes up her mind, thinks for herself, and knows how to put another person at ease, all the while refusing to belittle herself by acting like a boorish teenage boy. However, some modern women (and maybe men, too) think "lady" means delicate, can't think for herself, swayed by the opinion of others, and/or bullied into servitude. Methinks the personage on the sidewalk thinks along the lines of the latter, while our neighbor from the North intended the former.

**James Hood** · 6th October 13, 06:37 AM

'Have not heard quite a snap from someone born with "fully indoor plumbing" like that since women's lib was in its earlier-surlier days.

Good show, good man.

**Father Bill** · 6th October 13, 06:52 AM

When I taught nine & ten year olds, some many years ago, these young girls were wearing skirts, something that their mothers had never done, and therefore hadn't taught their daughters. I used to ask the girls to remain behind for three minutes after the boys left for recess and show the girls how to sit. Using the vocabulary of the day, I called this "lady lessons" - knees together, ankles to one side.

With wide-eyed innocence, the girls asked me "why" and I explained candidly and quietly (while looking them straight in the eye!) that I didn't want to be able to see up their skirts as they faced me. "Ohhhh!" they replied.

I always received heartfelt thanks from their mothers who had never thought of teaching the girls such a thing.

**Chas** · 6th October 13, 08:35 AM

O tempora o mores

(Oh the times! Oh the customs!)
Marcus Tullius Cicero 3 January 106 BC – 7 December 43 BC

I do sometimes wonder if there ever was a golden age.

**Scout** · 6th October 13, 08:47 AM

Awhile ago I heard a young "lady" rebuff an older man who had held a door open for her, scolding him that it wasn't necessary and was in fact downright sexist for men to hold doors open for women in this day and age. The man handled the situation with a lot more tact and style than I would have been able to muster. He calmly replied "I didn't hold the door open because you are a lady. I held the door open because I am a gentleman."