No kilt at the wedding, or some people still don't get it

**arrogcow** · 31st March 07, 02:30 PM

So this week I called one of my best friends from college. He had been the best man at my wedding, but we don't keep in touch as much as we should. However it was his birthday, and amazingly I got a hold of him.

Turns out he is getting married in Oct in Stony Point, NY and I get to be a groom dude. Now we chat for a while and another groom dude aparently lives right next door to Amerikilts. My friend also has a UK a couple of AK's and a tank in his family tartan. I also know that at least one of the other guys I expect to be in the wedding has a kilt (and another that wouldn't supprise me if he did). So I finally ask him what to wear for the wedding (thinking that this may be my excuse for that Brian Baru jacket I want, and possibly a new tartan - if the bride wants everyone to match for some reason).

Morning coats. Arrrghh. I have to drive 700 miles and then wear pants. I'm gonna beat that boy when I see him.

Adam

**cessna152towser** · 31st March 07, 02:44 PM

Each to their own and its what the bride and groom want the principal guests to wear on the day that counts, unfortunatley. I got married in trousers but that was before my new wife introduced me to the comfort of kilts.

**Fearnest** · 31st March 07, 02:45 PM

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

**Canadian_Kilt** · 1st April 07, 06:11 AM

Originally Posted by Fearnest

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

I have to say absolutely do not do this.

I fully agree with Caradoc. The wedding party and principle guests (MC, Ushers etc) wear what you tell them to wear, and changing out of it later is rude and insulting to the bride and groom.

If you don't like the outfit, don't go, or decline to be in the wedding party. If you can't do something as simple as wear a tux for one night for a friend, then you shouldn't be in the wedding party in the first place.

However there's nothing wrong with some good-natured ribbing for making you wear it .. ;)

**Blu (Ontario)** · 1st April 07, 06:40 AM

Originally Posted by Fearnest

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

I think this would probably be my inclination as well.

Change into kilt & kit for the dinner & dance. The formal wear attire tends to be shed quickly anyway once the refreshments start flowing... as do the inhibitions of the guests. So I'm not so sure I'd even ask... I'd just show up and let it be a surprise.

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**Nick** · 1st April 07, 07:00 AM

I don't know the reasons they don't want kilts, but I can give my take. I did get married in a kilt, but there was another option me and my lady were considering. Tails, silk top hat, and white satin spats. Real ones, not the rental lookalikes. The kilt won out for many reasons, but I do like the elegant look of the early 20th century, even if it does include trousers. I'd rather be kilted, but in the end the choice of the theme is up to the bride and groom (for the most part.)

**Caradoc** · 31st March 07, 03:51 PM

Originally Posted by arrogcow

Morning coats. Arrrghh. I have to drive 700 miles and then wear pants. I'm gonna beat that boy when I see him.

It's not your wedding. It's theirs.

You have the choice of doing it their way, or not going. It's up to them to decide what the wedding party is wearing.

Now, that said... it does open up some interesting possibilities for the toasts later at the reception.

**Streetcar** · 1st April 07, 11:12 AM

Originally Posted by Caradoc

It's not your wedding. It's theirs.

You have the choice of doing it their way, or not going. It's up to them to decide what the wedding party is wearing...

Agreed, and I'll take it a step further. For our wedding, I realizied it wasn't "ours" so much as "hers."

If he's really your buddy, don't start his wedded life miserably by giving him a pissed-off bride.

**Caradoc** · 1st April 07, 05:40 PM

Originally Posted by Streetcar

Agreed, and I'll take it a step further. For our wedding, I realizied it wasn't "ours" so much as "hers."

If he's really your buddy, don't start his wedded life miserably by giving him a pissed-off bride.

If he's smart, he already knows this.

I certainly did... it only took one disagreement over a wedding detail, and then after that it was "Well, honey, I think we might consider doing it this way, but if you want to do it that way, I'm okay with that."

**BonnieT100** · 1st April 07, 06:03 PM

My girlfriend says that if we get married, I'll be wearing my dress blues for the wedding and my kilt for the reception. I suppose I can live with that.