I was handed shorts!

[Brian07663NJ]

On Friday night I went to visit a friend who I haven't seen in over a year. Decided to wear a casual kilt with boots and a t-shirt. We were just going to relax for a while and then go get something quick to eat at a local bar. He complimented me on my kilt and even went so far as to state that he respects me for being different and blaze new trails without worrying about what others think. He admires that. (keep that in mind)

So it was time to get going to eat and he handed me some shorts. "Here you can borrow my shorts." I asked why. He said, "you certainly cannot go to my local bar wearing a kilt. What will people think of me walking in with you like that? You are not going to be comfortable going into my bar wearing that! People will think you are crazy. I don't want to ruin my reputation by being seen with you in a kilt."

So I put my hand on my belt buckle and almost entertained the thought of putting on shorts until I got mad at myself for even remotely considering the thought of changing. Then I said "no, this is who I am and this is how I am dressed. I am not wearing shorts. Go eat by yourself." I left and went home.

So much for being admired for being different. No worries - I realize he wasn't a friend and is recatagorized to acquaintence.

Anyone interested in having a kilt night at a small local bar here in New Jersey? I might be able to make sure he is there and we can ALL be his "friend" or anyone can just show up and ask them if he is around because you are friends with him. hahhaa

[Dale Seago]

Yes -- acquaintance. If he's ashamed to be seen with you, he's no friend.

[Mike_Oettle]

Dale Seago wrote: “If he's ashamed to be seen with you, he's no friend.”

Dead right.
Regards,
Mike

[jrmiller]

It's fear, kilt wearing is probably akin to skirt wearing and being associated with someone "like that" would ultimately reflect badly on his standing among his peers. In this case, fear trumps friendship. Fear is a very powerful motivator. You are probably better off hanging out with people who are not so fearful of life, the "fearful" ones may reflect badly on your standing with your peers!

You may have heard that if you want to know who "you are", look at your friends. We tend to keep company with people who share our own values and these are reflected back toward us. Culling this fearful person from your herd is this principle in action.

[Nighthawk]

Yes -- acquaintance. If he's ashamed to be seen with you, he's no friend.

You know what's odd? It seems everyone on here has had that experience except for me. My friends, whom are few and far between, have always understood that I walk my own path. It saddens me to hear about people being so misunderstood by others in the guise of "friend."

[Mike_Oettle]

Dale, it seems you had a great first date. But did you see the lass afterwards?
Regards,
Mike

[Dale Seago]

Dale, it seems you had a great first date. But did you see the lass afterwards?
Regards,
Mike

Alas, no. She wasn't explicit about why, but I had the strong impression she was embarrassed by her own behavior at the bar and back at her place after that. (One of those "I'm a nice girl, and nice girls don't behave this way!" kinda things.) Personally I'd have been willing to put up with much more of the same, but. . .no.

[Robert Lamb]

I would be tempted to slip the shorts on under my kilt and said OK? so "lets go".

[Riverkilt]

Ya gotta be kidding?? This is a joke right??? A "man" did that to a "friend?" No way! Imagine he goes crazy trying to figure out what his "friends" in his BAR (!!??) will think of him in his various outfits.....

There is a man on this planet who worries what people in a BAR will think of him???

Circuits shorting out here...zappp fizzzle spark.....

Can not compute....can not compute...

[auld argonian]

Friends don't make friends wear shorts.

Best

AA