Fighting objections from the wife

**Nik** · 11th February 12, 06:56 PM

Hello guys,

Since I've got the itch to wanting to wear a kilt, I've read about everything on the internet I could find. I've got material to make my own X-kilt, and would love to buy a more traditional one in a few months (like SWK HW).

However I can't get my wife to see it as a viable option to casual pants. I'm passing the X-kilt off (by the skin of my teeth) as part of a costume for the Ren Fest. She feels it's just weird and doesn't seem to have any kind of interest in supporting me more then a costume.

Any suggestions from you guys would be great. And if any of the ladies of some kilted men can offer some words of advice, please I'm all ears.

-Nik

**LitTrog** · 11th February 12, 07:29 PM

People remarry all the time.

If that's not an option for you, I hope she REALLY likes what she sees when you kilt up in your "costume." Otherwise, I foresee many battles for you, my friend.

**rondo** · 11th February 12, 08:00 PM

Lets see..."for better or worse, in sickness and in health, til death do us part."
Tell her its a sickness and she signed up for it.

Seriously, just do it, she'll come around especially when she sees other women taking notice of you.
Rondo

**LitTrog** · 11th February 12, 08:07 PM

Originally Posted by rondo

Lets see..."for better or worse, in sickness and in health, til death do us part."
Tell her its a sickness and she signed up for it.

Seriously, just do it, she'll come around especially when she sees other women taking notice of you.
Rondo

That part may be a detriment, depending on her character.

**Watson42** · 11th February 12, 08:10 PM

As the lady of a man with a kilt, I have to say, I'm not entirely sure why your wife is objecting. Frankly, I'm trying to convince my man to wear his kilts more often.

I would suggest that you ask her to just let you wear it a couple days and for her to watch the people around you. Dress it up smartly, casually, whatever way feels best. Regardless, there's nothing quite like a man in a kilt and if you're lucky (I cross my fingers for you) she'll come to realize that. Best of luck to you!

**flyingshamrock** · 12th February 12, 05:22 AM

Originally Posted by LitTrog

People remarry all the time.

Hilarious!!! ... Even if it wasn't apart of my heritage, my wife finds it extremely sexy when I don the kilt. Like the rabble has explained, you walk taller, much more confident, nothing can stop you! Plus my wife loves the attention so that helps too... Eventually she'll warm up to it if she knows how important it is to you. Just don't force it on her to much. Moderation is key.

**Pleater** · 12th February 12, 07:16 AM

Don't fight - that never solves anything in a family situation and doesn't do a lot out of it.

Just be more fun in a kilt than in other attire.

When non kilted at an event if your wife is bored find a reason to stay a little longer, or vice versa - just glance at your watch three or four times and accompany the last two with a sigh, then suggest you leave. You don't actually have to leave early, just make it plain it was a chore.

Just be subtle.

Anne the Pleater :ootd:

**Mickey** · 12th February 12, 08:00 AM

Originally Posted by LitTrog

People remarry all the time.

LOL!

Really though, start out slow. A trip to the grocery store, a lunch, go to a movie, stuff like that. The odds are in your favor that she will quickly start warming to the look. And if she doesn't.... well.. as LitTrog said....

**Steve of Lansing** · 11th February 12, 08:12 PM

Nik,

When I first started on this forum I remember seeing a thread that dealt with pretty much the same hole you're in. The best sounding advice I saw on that thread came from one of our female members, and it went something like this.

When you wear the kilt:

Walk just a little taller.
Walk just a little closer to your wife and hold her hand when you do.
Laugh just a little harder.
Smile just a little wider.
Listen to her just a little more attentively, and look her in the eyes a little longer.

In other words, just do all the stuff you probably already do, just a little better.

Do all these thing when wearing a kilt, but not so much that it's obvious. It shouldn't be hard. Kilts inspire confidence, and these are all things that confident people do. (And the ladies do love a confident man)

Then back off just a little when you're wearing pants. It shouldn't be too long before she comes around.