I really need to vent...

[TheOfficialBren]

I am head over heels for a young lady who has told me that she is also crazy about me.

Here's the clincher...she suffers from anxiety and chronic depression and takes medication for this. Often she is chatty and open. The last few days, however, she has been withdrawn and difficult to talk with.

I know that, myself having Asperger's Syndrome, I am not always an easy person to be around but I am making a serious effort here.

I really feel that she could be "the one." I don't know if that will happen but we have both discussed the matter and are both open to the idea of going the whole distance (see "marriage") if the time is right and we have dated for a healthy amount of time.

I could really use some advice, or even a friendly sympathetic note.

Thanks, guys, for being supportive. I posted in the Misc. Because this isn't kilt-related but I gather that we are a community first and foremost.

[John_Carrick]

Sounds like you have a great thing going here and I wish you both luck and happiness.
I'm not qualified to speak on this but I know of several people with similar conditions to your lady and sometimes there are just difficult periods that have to be got through, and they may only be occasional and made better by having a good partner who will get to know how to provide the right support.
Also people get prescribed new medication which does not work out for them or they don't take the medication they should be taking. I hope she is feeling better soon.

Best wishes
John

[TheOfficialBren]

That is quite true!
Thank you, very much, John.
Your words have been encouraging.

[neloon]

Bren,
"we have dated for a healthy amount of time"
I think that is important. You are both going to have to get used to each other's needs and that may be quite hard work. So take it gently. Obviously the anxiety to "get it right" will be difficult for both of you - it's the same for everybody really.
All the best to you and the lovely lady.
Alan

[guardsman]

I liked the saying , todays mountains are tomorrows mole hills. Problems always seem immense at any given time, but they get smaller as you get over them. Good luck with the relationship, even the best have rocky patches.

[Father Bill]

Well, everyone deserves happiness. Sounds like you both have a good share of that right now. May you make the right decisions, and may they make both of your happinesses continue.

[Copperheid]

Let her talk. Doesn't matter about what. Just...Keep yer mouth shut for a spell, and let her talk. Best started over a meal with wine if it doesn't conflict with meds.

Corinne

Ps. AND LISTEN!

[pbutts]

Let her talk. Doesn't matter about what. Just...Keep yer mouth shut for a spell, and let her talk.

As they say on another board I'm on when someone has just posted the ultimate word on a subject : "Lock thread."