What does it take?

[Blu (Ontario)]

Just a couple of random thoughts as I was browsing your thread...

Rex & Rocky have both made excellent points. In addition, I can only suggest that there must be a gene for kilts... and some people have it & some people don't.

Like you, I met with resistance in the initial stages. I've managed to overcome that resistance for the most part through persistance, intelligent discussion, some compromise, and more persistance. Over time she has come to realize that it's harmless and sometimes fun.

I'm not even close to being a full time kilt wearer myself but I might suggest that increasing the frequency of kilt wearing slowly may be less of a shock to her system.

blu

[NewKilt]

Bottom line... people have preconceived ideas of what's "acceptable" and what's not. Unfortunately, your wife isn't fond of kilts for everyday wear. Not much is going to change that but *MAYBE* time and wearing them often.

Nothing will change her mind but HER. As long as you keep acting "proper" and getting positive feedback and she SEES people asking you "HEY, Where's the Kilt today!?!", she has a better chance of eventually coming around.

Rocky has really nailed it. I think the fact that your wife is willing to go out with you while kilted (even though see doesn't like it) is a potential bright spot. Only time will tell.

My wife was not crazy about it initially, but I think her being with me, and people making compliments made her more at ease. I wear them full-time, and now she even tells me I look nice, and has no problems going with me anywhere.

I would talk to her about how it is actually a more logical form of attire for men than pants or shorts.

Darrell

[bubba]

My wife was a bit skeptical when I first decided to get a kilt but once I started she liked it alot. I gotta admit I used to dress more like Larry the Cable Guy and my wife took some pleasure in disposing of my ratty jeans and ragged flannel shirts. I guess my wardrobe took a definate jump up in style and class.

[Andrewson]

Many thanks for all the helpful suggestions - especially to Rocky for his rapid and insightful response.

I'd just like to make it clear that I don't mind being thought a bit eccentric. It is part of my plan to grow old disgracefully because that adds a delicious bit of spice to life. I've never ever been in the mainstream of common interests and ideas but I did waste a great deal of time when young worrying about what others thought. I'm growing out of that.

No, the problem really is how to persuade someone you love to share these feelings.

I found Blu's suggestion to Hachiman on the recent thread http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/s...ad.php?t=19797
to re-read the Braveheart material at http://www.kiltmen.com/advice.htm
was also very useful. I too had forgotten about that useful page.

Thanks again!