Hello Fraser of Lovat, and welcome to X Marks from Delaware, USA.

There are a lot of opinions as to what is acceptable or not to wear with a kilt but, I believe it has a lot to do with context. I don't believe your cousin was being foolish. He may have been out of context relative to more current trends regarding the kilt but, in a more formal or historical sense, I'm sure his accessories were just fine for the 'Ball'.

My last name is Simpson, and my ancestors came to the US from Scotland so I am a de-facto member of the Fraser Clan (Fraser of Lovat specifically). I just recently received my heirloom (8 yard, 16oz wool, hand sewn) Fraser of Lovat modern kilt (seen here) made by, Bonnie Heather Greene, a member here.

I'm glad you chose to join the rabble and I look forward to your participation.

Nile