Richard,

I wish that at times that we could have a magic wand and all things that are not right with our world could vanish. However we do not.

I know that it would bring painful memories, but asking family members a little bit here and a little bit there and you bringing all the pieces together may be of some benefit. It may be like pulling teeth, and you may not get anywhere with it. But since I do not know your family it may not be a good idea, the dynamics of families can be very twisted.

What ever you decide to do to find the answers my heart goes out to you and I am sure many here feel the same way. No simple answers I know. Oh for that magic wand.

Take care my friend.