Jeez Zardoz,

I'm with the "put your helmet on and stay low" folks. And, I'm a licensed professional counselor in my state with education, training, and experience in marriage and family counseling.

All any of us can do is take a wild guess at what's with the relationship. My wild guess would be that J is off sewing kilts, making furniture et.al. and Mrs. J is lonely and hating the stuff he makes for stealing time from her.

Then a therapist would delve into why this "stuff making" is more important to J than his relationship....and on and on it goes until they decide to work things out or split up and try again.

But no way advice from this most wonderful board is gonna help since its based on almost total lack of knowledge of what's happening...and that includes my advice. Worse, what we do "know" is based on near gossip.

Okay, broke my own rule. Helmet back on, digging in low.

Ron