Atagahi

I would agree with your stipulation that society expects us to (attempt) to get out of a situation without (further) violence.

However, I find that violence has been done when, after joking and then serious verbal warnings have been given, and perhaps a physical attempt to deflect the assault (not sexual, just simple assault), but the assault continues, self-defense is required. Whether that is best done by flipping open a phone and dialling 911 or whatever direct physical action is necessitated by the situation, depends entirely on circumstance.

State of mind of the victim - your imputed fear of homosexual assault or whatever - is completely immaterial. The action of attempting to expose someone against their will after direct warning is, pure and simple, an assault.


Phil