I've been involved with a few weddings (grooms man and best man), tux, beach style, kilted ( that was my only request to my bride....."I dont care what we do ....as long as I get to wear my kilt)

to the beach style wedding, I wore a sarong after the pics were taken, at first the bride and groom said " oh my god" then they laughed and had a blast with it

for the tux wedding I was asked to "leave the kilt at home" as the brides parents were........shall we say......not open to things....outside the norm. ( I had to do 3 revisions on my best man speech there was STILL content that THEY couldn't understand, or appricieate while everyone else lost it laughing)


dont ask if you can wear the kilt....ask what kind of dress is allowed after the monkey suit can be taken off.

"hey BTW are we going to be changing into something else after the ceremony?

ok what would be acceptable?

(if response is "oh I dont know " )

well I thought I might wear my kilt if thats ok?
or even MORE subtle (sp)

bring 2 outfits, one a blase` outfit and the other the kilt...let them choose for you

tis easier to corerce to get your way than to smack them up side the head!