Just my view--but if I go to a funeral it is for someone who I was close to and want to pay my respects to them and thier family/friends. If we are that close then they know that having me show up kilted is a show of sincere respect.

When they toss dirt on me there'd better be kilts-a-plenty, pipes low and mournful and drums playing slow and steady. And the rabble should proceed from the site to a place warmed by friendship where they bend elbows and tell tall tales.