The kilt is in the process of going back to the seller. Once she receives it, a full refund will be issued. She did not know the difference between mens' and womens' kilts. I didn't "know" the difference either, but suspected what they might be. Lesson learned, I don't plan on buying kilts on ebay again no matter how good the price unless I know all the pertinent information about them or feel confident the seller knows about kilts.