Seeing as you asked for opinions, I will give one.

I like the present system. The arbitration is in the hands of the Mods. It is their job and they do it quite well. It is for them to weigh the complaint against the rules. To know the difference between the 'letter of the law' and the 'spirit of the law'. To work out the necessary punctuation and grammar so that writer's intent becomes clear. Then to make a decision as to whether the post was in breach of the rules.

As far as I am aware, if there is a breach, the writer is given the chance to amend the post or retract before it is removed permanently. Of course, if the breach is so gross as to be openly offensive then instant action is taken.

In your scenario, who would approach the writer of the post? If it is a Mod, then there is no 'intervention step', because Mod activity would have started. If it is to be another member, then we would have flame wars every day. The two members having diametrically opposing views - consensus is guaranteed not to be the outcome.

The system works - we should allow it to carry on working.

Regards

Chas