Need help coordinating shirt/hose/tie/flashes

**CelticSire** · 23rd August 11, 09:59 AM

Originally Posted by Lime

If you don't know how to tie your own bow tie you really should: it's as easy as tying your shoe laces and looks so much better.

http://www.totieatie.com/bowTie.asp

**Shaun S.** · 25th August 11, 02:36 PM

Thanks, but it might all be a moot point. First, she picked out a navy blue tie to match her dress and the blue in my kilt. Second, I'm beginning to doubt that I will actually wear the kilt to the captain's dinner.

A week and a half ago, when my USA Kilt semi-traditional kilt arrived, I told her that I would wear my kilt on the day we went to the alteration shop. The hang up was that in that same trip she had a doctor's appointment. When the time came today to leave, I put the kilt on, but she objected; strongly.

Since January I have been wearing my X-kilt and Utilikilt around the house and to church on Wednesday (where I help with the youth and can get out of the house before she gets home). She's too afraid to take the first baby step of leaving the house with me wearing the kilt. I don't see how, in just two months, she will be okay with me wearing it to the formal dinner.

She is afraid that people will look at her and think "I can't believe you let him out of the house looking like that."

If she is not comfortable, then wearing the kilt will ruin the evening for both of us. It's better that I be the only one bothered.

Thanks for letting me vent.

**Shaun S.** · 25th August 11, 03:02 PM

I can't get my iPod to function where I could edit the previous post. So.

I just remembered, I did wear my kilt to the evening church service Sunday, and then out to dinner. I guess that having child members comment and ask questions was uncomfortable enough that she won't try it again. By the way, no problems/comments at dinner.

**Zardoz** · 26th August 11, 08:22 AM

The last cruise we went on I intended to just kilt up for the fancy dinner, but the more I considered it, I only took one pair of trousers, some jeans to wear on a horseback excursion. Otherwise I was kilted the entire trip. I cannot recommend it highly enough! I was a hit with all the passengers and crew, earning me a few perks and freebies along the way.

http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/f...-photos-33301/

**Shaun S.** · 27th August 11, 06:58 PM

I'd love to be mostly kilted on the cruise, but my wife is not comfortable with it. It would also give me an excuse to get a casual kilt from Rocky too. Somehow, wearing the kilt to formal night is ok again and a baby step to more common wearing of the kilt. I think that I will pack a suit too, just in case she gets cold feet as we are getting ready for the dinner.

**artificer** · 27th August 11, 07:10 PM

Originally Posted by Shaun S.

I'd love to be mostly kilted on the cruise, but my wife is not comfortable with it. It would also give me an excuse to get a casual kilt from Rocky too. Somehow, wearing the kilt to formal night is ok again and a baby step to more common wearing of the kilt. I think that I will pack a suit too, just in case she gets cold feet as we are getting ready for the dinner.

If I were you, I'd skip the suit. That way, cold feet or not, if she wants to go to the Captain's dinner with you, YOU'RE wearing a kilt

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**Spartan Tartan** · 28th August 11, 03:53 AM

I hope it all works out for the dinner. Sounds like you're going to have a nice outfit. Pehaps she will be more comfortable when she sees you in the entire outfit? No matter what, be sure to enjoy yourself

**fluter** · 28th August 11, 08:48 AM

Originally Posted by Shaun S.

Somehow, wearing the kilt to formal night is ok again and a baby step to more common wearing of the kilt...

All right, lad. Don't mention it again, under pain of the woman's prerogative of changing her mind again.

Wear it if at all possible, but while you do pay extra attention to your bride. Make darned sure she's feeling loved and glamorous; because one thing she'll have to cope with is feminine attention to you. She may not be used to this, so ensure that when it comes, it merely enhances her prestige.

If she asks, I suggest you say, "Those girls are nice, but I know whom I'm taking home tonight."

**okiwen** · 28th August 11, 10:31 AM

Three pages and only one photo. I am a whole bunch better and "seeing" color than reading color. We know the rules...pics, pics, pics. Show me, worth 1000 posts.

**Shaun S.** · 28th August 11, 11:36 AM

Note: I need to read up on multiple quotes.

Articifer, Good idea.

ST, kilts are semi-common at these captains' dinners. So that makes it okay for her.

Flutter, my wife looks HOT in her dress, I'll be too busy fending off the guys to even notice the other women. My loyalty to her is one thing that has not been in question. But good advice none the less.

Okiwen, I'll see if I can get her to snap a pic some time soon. It will have to be without the jacket because I won't get it back from the alteraion shop until after September 6th. And of course, I will post a formal night picture after the cruise.

Edit: Well, I have a picture (see avatar), but I have to read up on how to post it. So, check back later.