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    Re: Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Chas View Post
    Who's child is he? Your's, Your wife's, Or both of you together? Do you not have an equal say in his upbringing? Why should your desires for his future be any less valid than your wife's.

    Buy the kilt.

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    Re: Advice

    I'd say go for it.

    My eldest (10) has worn his several times since he got one for Xmas and has not experienced any negativity except from one kid who turned out to be jealous.
    His dad has one in a rare tartan that cost a bundle so he refuses to buy him one until he stops growing so fast.

    If the kid's genuinely interested, support him and get him one. There are loads of good deals around so it needn't cost an arm and a leg.
    As others have said, once SWMBO sees how cute and handsome he looks...
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    Re: Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by GreenDragon View Post
    He's both of ours.
    Exactly my point.

    Him wearing a kilt at this time is right on so many levels.

    It is easy for mothers, they have the maternal instinct built in. They are hard wired for it. Oh sure, men can do child rearing and do it well, but women do it instinctively.

    But there are times when the best parent for the job is the father. This is one of those times. He is seven years old and wants to be like his dad. Kilt wearing is something special that his dad does and he wants to do it as well. Bonding.

    If you and he wear your kilts for "guy time" and do "guy things" together and if you both go with your wife and have "family time" and do "family things" together he will not be laughed at, because he will be with an adult.

    The time will come, all too soon, when he will want to listen to outrageous music, drive dangerous vehicles, have unsafe relationships with women who are old enough to be his grandmother but dress as if they charge by the hour -

    But...

    For now, he looks up to you and thinks you are a superhero and he wants to sit on your right hand and bask in your glory - dressed like you dress.

    I would not hesitate - buy him his first kilt.

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    Chas

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    Re: Advice

    I tease my boy mercilessly when he wears his kilt. Little weirdo.
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    Re: Advice

    Chas's point is correct: he is your son and your wife's son. And a father does have things to offer a son that a mother cannot. A man should be a man and "man up" as we say in showing a boy how to be a man. (I won't get into what all that means.)

    But she's only your wife! Wearing her down may work, but if she's as hard-headed as mine, it could back fire and cause her to dig in her heels. If it's going to be a fight, then you have to decide if it's a fight you want to wage; the decision may rest on whether you think it's a fight you can win. It is, after all, about a kilt, not about morals or ethics or nutrtion.

    To me, it would be a thing worth fighting over because it speaks to one's manhood in some ways. But only you can decide about that. I would get him a kilt from Stillwater for 20 bucks and see where it leads for him in the future. The teasing factor is a specious argument.
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    Re: Advice

    "It's easier to ask for forgiveness than it is to get permission"
    - Grace Hopper

    Order it from Stillwater kilts, it will be here before your wife knows it, (in fact it's probably already half way to you ) and once she sees it on your child THEN she can make up her mind.

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    Re: Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by GreenDragon View Post
    My (almost 7 year old) son sees my kilts. I don't usually get to wear them out around the wife because she doesn't like them. But when I can, I do.

    So my son sees mine hanging in my closet and likes to see me try them on. He tells me he wants one.

    Do I get him one? Or should I continue to not rock the boat and wait until he's much older.

    My wife thinks he'll be made fun of if he wears a kilt.
    You don't say if the kilt is part of your heritage.
    if it is, the sell should be fairly easy. The lad needs a kilt for Scottish functions.

    If not the sell gets a bit tougher, tougher but still doable. I would start with the point that the kilt is the most masculine garment on the planet at this time.
    I would include the sense of confidence it builds.
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    Re: Advice

    Quote Originally Posted by Fedgunner View Post
    You don't say if the kilt is part of your heritage.
    if it is, the sell should be fairly easy. The lad needs a kilt for Scottish functions.

    If not the sell gets a bit tougher, tougher but still doable. I would start with the point that the kilt is the most masculine garment on the planet at this time.
    I would include the sense of confidence it builds.
    Simply believe in your stance and you will find a way.
    We're Irish, as well as many other things. So the kilt is part of our heritage. I'm trying to enstill a sense of pride in our heritage.

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    Re: Advice

    My son has outgrown his, and since I no longer wear Black Watch very often (his was a black watch acrylic kids-kilt) I haven't gotten him a new one. Oddly enough as I'm typing this I'm wearing BW, but am not planning on leaving the house for awhile (working from home today).

    I have recently lost a ton of weight and will probably be buying a *another* new kilt from Rocky in Davidson, but may also tack on a PV casual in the same tartan for my son. Problem is, he is as big as many 10-year-olds, in height as well as in girth... he has a 26" waist at the navel, 30" hips, and the kilt would be 18-20" long... can't get any "kid kilt" discounts when your boy is a hoss.

    I wonder where he gets that from?


    In addition, the acquisition of quite a few very well-made PV kilts have done nothing but increase a loathing for acrylic kilts... they don't swish, they lose their pleating without judicious ironing and care, and they insulate way too much for my liking (especially in Florida). It's wool or PV for me, here on out, and the same for my boy. Moreso because I like to attend bonfires on occasion and I would hate for my son wear a combustable garment while roasting marshmallows.
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    Re: Advice

    If your wife is worried about your boy being fun of or looking weird how about you request photos from the proud Moms and Dads of XMTS to show her how wonderful a lad can look in his kilt.

    Perhaps it would change her mind

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