Fighting objections from the wife

[thescot]

Watson42 and sydnie7: you are both wonderful women and a credit to your sex. ForresterModern and I have similar situations and stories except that I was wearing kilts whenever I darn well pleased when I met my wife. She knew I often wore kilts for no reason other than "I feel like it" when she married me.

But then, all women marry men hoping they'll change, and all men marry women hoping they won't. Both are disappointed.

You'll have to figure it out for yourself. I don't wear mine as often as a concession to nagging and whining and bi..., uh, complaining. But I do wear it if I really want to. I was sleeping alone long before we met.

[Ryan Ross]

When you kilt up, be sure to pack extra swag. That's the most important part.

Do that, and there's no way to avoid success.

Do it not, and you'll find yourself sinking to Perdition faster than you can say "It's not a skirt."

[kiltedjoss]

My son and I told my wife of a recent incident at the car show. A lady wanted to take a picture w me after saying, "Other than one or two cars, you are the hottest thing here today." My wife just calls it mid-life crisis and pretty soon my head won't fit through the door.

[opositive]

my wife thought it was weird until she realized it resulted in more conversations and attention which she diverted to herself. so, be the lure but let her be the hook.

[ForresterModern]

.... all women marry men hoping they'll change, and all men marry women hoping they won't. Both are disappointed.

Jim, you are a man after my own heart (wait a minute, you already have someone else's-- ;) ). This is a line I have been espousing for the last 25-30 years and found it to be true in my own relationships and those of so many of my good friends. Sometimes, however, even when they do occur, the changes a woman recieves from her man are not exactly as they might have expected or hoped for.

[Chase]

Whenever I kilt up I get asked the same question---What is the special occasion?--by my beloved, as she believes that I should only wear the kilt when there is a specific scottish/celtic reason to wear it---namely a games, a kilt night, or other scottish specific gathering. She is not fond of me wearing the kilt, and does not think it at all masculine, jokes regulalry about it being a skirt (although this is diminishing), and actually says out loud that it turns her OFF from a sexual interest standpoint. On top of that we regulalry battle about my desiring to wear a kilt to significant events where she would be expected to accompany me, rolling her eyes and sighing as if her attending by my kilted side has now become more of a chore than a pleasure, simply because I chose to attend kilted.
We met, dated several years, were married three years and were having our first child together before I was bitten by the bug more than 4 years ago, and she openly says that if she had known I was going to start wearing kilts (sometimes she says skirts) that she would never have married me. Not an ideal situation to be in for one who desires to maintain a happy marriage yet still wear the kilt when he feels the urge. There have been a couple occasions where she has threatened not to attend an event with me if I went kilted, to which I said I would then attend the events alone and kilted, which eventually prompted a reluctant change of heart, but not attitude.

Oh well, for some it is easier than others. Best of luck, and realize that you are not alone and are in good company. I have no suggestions to give you, as only you can know your spouse's particular situation and feelings and how best to approach the issue with her. Many of the above stated ideas may work for some, not for others, and frankly backfire for a few. I can only suggest trial and error, patience, kindness and consideration, and ask for the same from your spouse.

jeff

In addition to FM's status, my wife adds, "She feels embarrassed"???

[TurboKittie]

I know when I am embarrassed about how my husband looks in public, it really bothers me.

In my case though, it's only when I notice his clothes are stained or torn that I think it reflects badly on me.

I wish he would wear a kilt every weekend, because he looks great while wearing it. (I would say everyday, but for some reason the politics of his work prevent him from going there kilted.)

[Geoff Withnell]

My son and I told my wife of a recent incident at the car show. A lady wanted to take a picture w me after saying, "Other than one or two cars, you are the hottest thing here today." My wife just calls it mid-life crisis and pretty soon my head won't fit through the door.

My daughter's father-in-law called it a mid-life crisis as well. My wife, thank God, just said, "If so, it's cheaper and more convenient than a little red sportscar and a litte blonde mistress.

[Alan H]

The XKilt is great for some folks, but maybe not the best start in these situations. Some of the other threads that AlanH has so kindly searched up have pointed out that the LESS the kilt looks like a modern woman's skirt, the better off you may be. Tartan, lots of swoosh to go with the swagger, a sporran that doesn't look like a fanny pack all set the ensemble off.

This.

hey, I love the good old X-Kilt and sydnie7 has made a mess of them, too but most people kind of can't "process" the idea of "contemporary kilt". So unless you're an "alternative" kind of guy (or couple) start out with a tartan kilt, which your lass will at least know is a "kilt", even if she thinks it's wretched.

Anyway, best of luck and be sure to read those other threads, there's lots of good advice. But in the end, in your situation, it really is just a piece of clothing and you have to ask yourself which is more important, the kilt or your relationship. Alan has some strong views on that (wow, what a surprise LOL) but you have to find your own path.

What? ME? "strong views"...oh, come now!

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[Oddern]

My daughter's father-in-law called it a mid-life crisis as well. My wife, thank God, just said, "If so, it's cheaper and more convenient than a little red sportscar and a litte blonde mistress.

That's a great reason for wearing the kilt, cause it can't be contradicted.