I used to frequent Tom's, and don't anymore. My main objection was that the crossdressers would take a very smug, condescending attitude toward the Bravehearts. Their position was that we are ALL crossdressers, and they are simply more brave than we.

It used to be that Tom's was the testing ground for the two camps, and the debate was fierce. Nowadays, the debate is over; they won. Tom's is now the place where crossdressers can pretend that they're simply the most highly progressive of biological males. I have no idea if they still discuss changing gender, as they used to do from time to time. And it's where they can congratulate themselves for saving the Million Skirted Man march from being a farcical showcase for underdeveloped crossdressers.

Good riddance to that. I'll miss the debate, but not the forum.