[quote="I believed that conforming to what everyone around me wanted or expected of me was 'me'! How sad is that?

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Hi Ham.

I think this is a very common situation a lot of folk find themselves in. My social psychology lecturer spent a lot of time talking about the 'self'. 'Self fulfilling prophecies' and the 'looking glass self' and all that.

You try and conform to what others expect of you in order to be accepted. Or alternatively, you end up believing what people say about you and start behaving accordingly.

You end up with a personality which is controlled by the environment you live and work in......unless of course you are extremely confident; then you start making waves and alienating people.

It can be very hard being an individual.

Complicated life is....yes?

Al