Request to wear kilt at funeral - but I don't want to!

[creagdhubh]

Tobus,

I would like to say at the outset that I am deeply sorry for your loss and you have my sincerest condolences and symphathies during this difficult time. I know all to well what you may be experiencing emotionally. On Monday, April 23, 2012, I suddenly and rather unexpectedly lost my step-father of whom I was extremely close to (he was a Vietnam-era combat U.S. Marine, so we had a unique connection). Like your friend, he died in his sleep. Without going into too much detail, as this thread is concerning you and your friend, I will mention that my step-father was merely in his early sixties and was not sick or terminally ill in any way. His heart suddenly stopped beating. It is tragic, but time truly does heal.

Now, as far as you wearing Highland attire to your friend's funeral...do it! I agree with Chas, if this is what your friend's wife wishes, then by all means fulfill her request. I completely understand and appreciate how she wants everyone to wear bright, cheerful clothing...it makes total sense, as this should be a celebration of your friend's life; all that he stood for, accomplished, and for whom he loved and cherished.

I strongly encourage you to wear your new Colquhoun kilt to the funeral. Don't fear that you will be the center of attention, as it will be a celebration in a way; a joyful, yet sorrowful time to be shared with friends and family.

God Bless you my friend and again, I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Best wishes,

[GMan]

I am sorry to hear about this. I have worn a Kilt to a funeral at the request of the family and did so with the same feelings that you expressed. Yet after the services people came up to me and stated that they were glad I did.

Tough call, and I am sure you will do what is best.

[auld argonian]

I am heartened by your sensitivity to the situation...you are being appropriate and thoughtful. Considering the situation, I'm sure that your not wearing the kilt will be the least of the lady's problems and you will surely be forgiven. One of the greatest compliments we can pay a person here in Chicago is to say, "He's a decent guy." You are certainly being a decent guy here.

Best

AA