Daughter's objection to the kilt - need advice.

[Chas]

Parents and their children will embarrass each other for the whole of their lifetimes. Choose ANY subject and their will be disagreement at some level between the generations.

If it were me, I would use it as a learning experience (maybe a whole family learning experience). Being tolerant of other's choices is something to be admired. And your daughter is going to make some choices in the next 10 years that will turn your hair grey overnight.

Regards

Chas

[kiltedrennie]

Give them time.

I started with wearing it to the pub at night, then to outings that were not specifically for my kids. I didn't give my kids a choice of me wearing it unless it was to one of their events.

My 16 year old cosplaying daughter said "I don't care what you wear. My friends think its cool and the ones that don't, I don't care what they think."

My 13 year old son who doesn't like to dress up for Halloween was embarrassed and didn't want me to wear it if his classmates would be around. I let him have his way at first, but set the expectation I might change my mind. It's been a few months. We spent Tartan Day together, running around town on errands, ate lunch, had ice cream, and went to dinner at the local pub while I was kilted. While I was talking to a friend we ran into, he started a conversation with patrons at the table next to us when they asked him about my kilt. He's relaxed about it now, and just expects it.

[AJBryant]

The kilt is new to her senses, even though I have explained that her last name is a Scottish name, despite being more known as a popular band of soup.

Gee, Mr. Progresso, I don't know what to tell you. At that age kids are just paranoid. What she probably needs to learn is that kilts are cool -- cooler than anything SHE can do -- and that YOU write the rules.

BTW, don't mention to her that the problem is she hasn't developed her frontal lobes yet. At ten, she might misconstrue the statement and NEVER want to be seen with you again at all regardless.

Then again, knowing some ten-year-olds I've seen, that might not really be a bad thing.

[Father Bill]

A wise old mentor once told me that if your kids were nice kids before they reached double-digits, they'll be nice kids again after they reach their 20s!

Meanwhile... good luck and have fun!

[kiltjoy]

There are a couple of other items perhaps worth mentioning. First is Christ didn't wear pants. Also testicular cancer is more common in countries wear men wear pants and uncommon in countries where they don't. Not being Scottish or Irish it's tougher to explain that they are just more comfortable.

[Macman]

A wise old mentor once told me that if your kids were nice kids before they reached double-digits, they'll be nice kids again after they reach their 20s!

That was certainly my experience! I was lucky that my daughter was a highland dancer when she was 10, so me wearing a kilt was never a big deal to her. Then she became a teenager. Now she's a mom, a highland dancer again, and a wonderful young lady!

[O'Callaghan]

Oh, well. My gay son, aged 19, doesn't care, although he doesn't wear a kilt, but loves flat caps, but he comes with me and particularly likes Irn Bru. My handicapped and part Scottish wife never comes to anything, but is OK with the kilt if I only wear it at home and at celtic events. My daughter, OTOH, aged 15, really hates kilts but might come too if she can score a clannad ring! Bribery through cheap jewelery!

[Deil the Yin]

Still workin' on this one myself, but I feel your pain, man. I'm guessing that having a lot of patience is probably key...

[Spartan Tartan]

A wise old mentor once told me that if your kids were nice kids before they reached double-digits, they'll be nice kids again after they reach their 20s!

Meanwhile... good luck and have fun!

Touché Father...

[Father Bill]

What you have to do in between is just enjoy the ride and all the goofy friends.