Personally, I'd go with the turn-down collar, Argyll hose, and no fly plaid, but I'm generally of the opinion that anything but a day plaid is really more suited to the groom or white tie events where you really want to make a splash. As the father of the bride you may just be justified in wearing the plaid, but since it sounds like you'll be the only one kilted, it may be overkill.

And congratulations to you and your daughter!