Permisssion from the bride

[Mikilt]

I got a wedding invitation today. It's an old friend getting married.

The ceremony is going to be family only and the reception is a few days later. The reception is being held at a bar, so I expected that the dress code, if there is one, will be less formal/more casual than the wedding itself.

A smart man knows that a wedding is all about the bride. I decided that rather than just showing up in a kilt, I would ask permission. Before I could ask, she told me that her fiancee had already asked if I'd be wearing a kilt! She answered, "Probably." I was pre-approved!

So I am looking forward to this wedding even more than before. I've worn the kilt many times around her family, so they actually expect it. I'll be meeting the groom's family for the first time however. I imagine I'll attract a fair bit of attention.

I fully expect that it'll be a fun time!

[Chas]

Obviously a smart woman, who thinks ahead.

[Father Bill]

And a smart kiltie too!

[keith_b]

I recently attended a wedding where I figured I'd be the only kilted guest. I asked the bride if it was alright that I wear my kilt. She of course said, yes. I believe it's polite to ask ahead of time and I think you'll rarely hear a "no".

[Liam]

While a wedding is often considered to be the "bride's day", I have been "kilted" to many weddings over the past few years, and never felt the need to ask for permission, and never have I felt either out of place or had anyone make anything but positive comments, from those who chose to comment. I treat my kilt as an article of clothing and try to wear it appropriately "accessorized" for what ever occasion I am attending. Should a woman ask if she should wear a sari, a kimono as a guest, or a man a "western suit" with a bolo tie? I think the issue is not to dress up in your PC with fly plaid, dirk etc. and try to "out shine" the bridal party.

Just my opinion...Cheers...Bill

[JohntheBiker]

I recently attended a wedding where I figured I'd be the only kilted guest. I asked the bride if it was alright that I wear my kilt. She of course said, yes. I believe it's polite to ask ahead of time and I think you'll rarely hear a "no".

The first question would be to "She who must be obeyed". Although rarely a no, one should be prudent.

[ratspike]

You can never go wrong with being considerate so I think you made a good call asking the bride what she thought. When I first started wearing a kilt to shoot weddings I always asked our clients if it was okay with them. With two exceptions they always gave an enthusiastic "yes, please!". The two who said no really meant it, and had no sense of humor about the idea at all.

That being said, I agree with Liam. I don't ask anymore. If I'm working it's an expectation that's set in the beginning, and is often part of the reason we get hired. If I were going as a guest, well, considering what I see paraded about as "appropriate wedding attire" in this town I'm not worried about not being dressed for the occasion.

Anyway, enjoy the experience! I expect you and your kilt will be very popular.

[Fireboykirk]

Quite respectable to ask. Well done.

I was in the super market today, kilted, when I was approached by a young lady who to told me that she had asked her husband to wear a kilt at their wedding. He declined. She was upset, naturally. Then she introduced me to the poor fellow with a "See how good you would have looked!" I was happy for me and a bit embarrassed for the gent. I smiled and said something about how it was probably really pretty and moved along. Kilt-1, trousers-0!

[Standard]

My (now) daughter-in-law told me that I ought to wear my kilt for her and my son's wedding. I decided that a saxon style suit might be a better choice. My family would definitely understand, and it wouldn't be a distraction, however I did not want the kilt to be a distraction to her family. I'm glad that the bride asked you to wear yours, and I know you'll do a fine job of it too.

[TheOfficialBren]

Good on you for asking, my friend. In my neck of the woods kilts are a rarity. I am usually the only kilted gent at many events. I would never wear my kilt to a wedding without the bride's permission. Very tastful of you to ask permission.