Permisssion from the bride

**BCAC** · 14th November 13, 01:37 AM

I always say that when I am invited to a wedding, to "honour" the invitation I think that I should wear my best clothes. My best clothes just happen to be kilts. I've never asked beforehand and I've never had a problem.

**Father Bill** · 14th November 13, 05:13 AM

Fellows, don't forget that when people are miffed they don't always say anything, but the hurt is still there.

**BCAC** · 14th November 13, 06:24 AM

Originally Posted by Father Bill

Fellows, don't forget that when people are miffed they don't always say anything, but the hurt is still there.

If you are insinuating that people might be miffed without me knowing, I doubt it very much. They always seemed very happy to see me and usually gave me compliments on the way that I was dressed.

These days I can see them being more "miffed" if someone rocks up to their wedding (without asking beforehand) in grotty jeans and a torn T-Shirt, and yes, I have seen this happen!

**Father Bill** · 14th November 13, 08:07 AM

Originally Posted by BCAC

If you are insinuating that people might be miffed without me knowing, I doubt it very much. They always seemed very happy to see me and usually gave me compliments on the way that I was dressed.

These days I can see them being more "miffed" if someone rocks up to their wedding (without asking beforehand) in grotty jeans and a torn T-Shirt, and yes, I have seen this happen!

"Insinuating?" A very nasty word. "Wondering?" Perhaps a little. I try to be sensitive to those possibilities, and always counsel others - not you specifically - to also wonder in kindness and generous thought as well. It's just good manners to want to please and be kind.

**WillowEstate** · 14th November 13, 11:19 AM

Originally Posted by Mikilt

A smart man knows that a wedding is all about the bride. I decided that rather than just showing up in a kilt, I would ask permission.

You, sir, are a gentleman! As they say in these parts "Good on ya"!

**guardsman** · 14th November 13, 12:35 PM

Here here well done for asking

**BCAC** · 15th November 13, 02:25 AM

Originally Posted by WillowEstate

You, sir, are a gentleman! As they say in these parts "Good on ya"!

Originally Posted by guardsman

Here here well done for asking

I was just "Wondering"

if you blokes would ask the bride what she thought before putting on your three piece suit, or your two piece suit or any other article of clothing apart from your kilt?

Most people probably wouldn't so what makes you think that it is necessary to ask before wearing your kilt?

**MizzouScotsman** · 15th November 13, 02:40 AM

Originally Posted by BCAC

I was just "Wondering"

if you blokes would ask the bride what she thought before putting on your three piece suit, or your two piece suit or any other article of clothing apart from your kilt?

Most people probably wouldn't so what makes you think that it is necessary to ask before wearing your kilt?

I tend to agree with BCAC on this one. I am kilted 7 days a week. It's what I wear. For formal occasions, I wear the good stuff, shirt, tie, proper jacket, dress sporran, etc. But always a kilt. People these days tend to view the kilt as "dressy" garment or something unusual to wear. For me, it's every day clothing. For the kilt to be thought of as what it is, normal clothing, it should be acceptable to wear it everywhere you wear normal clothing....and weddings apply.

Just my $.02.

**WillowEstate** · 15th November 13, 11:18 AM

Originally Posted by BCAC

I was just "Wondering"

if you blokes would ask the bride what she thought before putting on your three piece suit, or your two piece suit or any other article of clothing apart from your kilt?

Most people probably wouldn't so what makes you think that it is necessary to ask before wearing your kilt?

For me, it would depend on the expected "norm" at the event. If, as I read into the OP's post (but I may be wrong), it seemed that I would be one of only a minority kilted, then I would ask, in case the bride felt that it would be a distraction. If the invitation suggested that Highland dress was preferred, then if I was intending to wear my kilt, then no, I wouldn't ask, since it is implied. But if the invitation suggested Highland dress and for some reason I wanted/needed to wear a three piece suit, then I would ask if that was OK.

I know it might seem outrageous to members here but there are actually people who have an intense dislike of kilt wearing - shock, horror

! Much as we might like to think it isn't, wearing the kilt is not generally the norm, whereas some form of suiting is. As the OP said, a wedding is primarily the day of the bride and groom, for me it's just good manners to ask. Y.M.M.V.

**ratspike** · 15th November 13, 12:08 PM

To all you gents who've replied to this thread, please move to Portland and start attending weddings! I'm so tired of seeing jeans, shorts, Carhartts, ball caps, generally sloppy attire and inappropriately short and/or low cut dresses on someone's that I could just scream bloody murder. It just isn't difficult to look sharp, y'know? Cheers to you all for having a bit of class.