Help wanted

[Shay]

From a woman's persepctive, there's a couple problems that might be cropping up in her mind that you would want to reassure her one:

Is my man a cross dresser?
Will he be flashing people?
Will he look like a total dork and I'll be embarrassed?
Will his legs be better than mine?

Options one and two, you can easily reassure her on- show her the forum, pictures of men in kilts, wear underwear, (I understand the whole 'going regimental' thing, but if you wouldn't want your girlfriend going sans panties in a skirt to the grocery store, she's probably not into it for you, either- it's a comfort level here, not a control level) ask her to nudge you if she sees the kilt creeping up (even thought it hardly ever, ever happens) etc.

Option three is something she's either going to get over, or won't. Not everyone likes kilts, just like not everyone likes sneakers or tank tops on their mate. If it's important to you, though, I say wear it anyway- once you've reassured her (or not, let's face it, cross-dressers can wear kilts when not in drag) then why do you need her approval?

I really wouldn't recommend saying something like, "It's sexist that you wear pants and skirts and I can't wear a kilt," because like it or not, that's a little like a white guy complaining to a black guy that he's tired of the stereotype that white men can't jump*. It doesn't really help your case with many people.

Option four- that's all you, buddy.

Good luck, if she wants, she can e-mail me, my husband's worn kilts off and on since we've been married and I might be able to answer questions she doesn't want to ask you or whatever. I won't be back for a week but I'd be happy to talk to her then- my e-mail is shaysNOSPAMdays@gmail.com, take out the NOSPAM.

*I'm not trying to start a fight here, just trying to give you a little perspective about how women often think when men bring up that things are sexist against what a male wants, mmkay?


EDIT: BTW- a lot of this could have been avoided by just wearing the kilt and not asking her what she thought until after it was a more normal thing- now all the focus in on the kilt when you do wear it as a source of tension rather than something you wear to be comfortable.