Divorce in my future?

**Raphael** · 21st October 05, 02:05 PM

It seems that she drifted away from the marriage, and I am afraid that probably started before your new job and your relocation.

**MacConnachie** · 21st October 05, 02:20 PM

When I first separated from my ex 5 years-and-change ago, a friend gave me some very good advice as I struggled with my emotions, commitments, etc. The ex had been married three times before, and I had assiduously avoided such commitment (yes, those of you detecting a pattern are more than likely correct).

The advice was, essentially, "People get married for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. You'll have to figure out which applies to you."

Some of the best advice I EVER received. It was all-but-over for the two of us, and I just had to come to grips with that. It took months and months, and I still miss that woman, occasionally. . .

Best of Luck. Find a good friend somewhere who you can talk to about this, with no judgment on that person's part -- just an empathetic listener. However it works out for you, I wish you well.

Mac

**Mike1** · 21st October 05, 02:43 PM

Mac, I can relate to how you still miss her (been there), but the one thing we always have to remember is that when we are standing and looking at a closed door, we are missing all the other doors that are opening around us.

**MacConnachie** · 22nd October 05, 08:56 AM

Originally Posted by Mike1

Mac, I can relate to how you still miss her (been there), but the one thing we always have to remember is that when we are standing and looking at a closed door, we are missing all the other doors that are opening around us.

Thanks, Mike. You're correct, of course. Hindsight is 20-20, and looking back on those times, I now see some opportunities presented themselves which I was too blinded to see whilst in the midst of it. Would've, could've, should've . . . (sigh)

**Mike1** · 23rd October 05, 04:31 PM

Originally Posted by MacConnachie

Hindsight is 20-20, and looking back on those times, I now see some opportunities presented themselves which I was too blinded to see whilst in the midst of it. Would've, could've, should've . . . (sigh)

I suspect that there are more than just the two of us that wear that scar. ;)

**Archangel** · 23rd October 05, 08:18 PM

One couple I know, I don't know their story, his wife set all the password and limitations on his computer, with his okay. I think it was a promise keepers' thing.

That's general advice, my thought is that the computer is a smoke screen. I've also learned not to take all the info from one side of the pair, sorry.