I'm sorry. I'd agree with the counselor suggestions. It's a good idea, been there, done that and while it did me no good at all, it helped my wife, so it was worth it.

Only you know whether she has just cause to not trust your online time. I can't even begin to comment on that.

If she pitches "divorce or separation, no options, my way or no way" with utterly no room for discussion, well.... that's not Love, my friend. Only you know how or why the realtionship got to a point where she'd say that.

good luck, mate. This is tough. I've very nearly been where you are, now.