First funeral coming up

[GMan]

Graham,

You hit the nail on the head about funerals and not wanting to stand out. It is hard to prepare yourself.

Yes people do know you as the kilted gentleman, and it sounds as if you are wearing a proper kilt and accesories.

I have been to several funerals kilted and as of yet no one has asked if I were to play the bagpipes. In fact many people have said that it is a distinct honor to have me wear a kilt.

[Riverkilt]

Sad stuff my friend,

Those that know you certainly expect you kilted.

What you wear will come from a place of honor for her.

[Prester John]

Dressing up is never inappropriate for a funeral. It is a way of showing respect and love for the departed and their kin. Just be sure it is not your "ordinary" kilt and outfit. Then, you are just doing the equivalent of wearing jeans.

Dressing for the occasion is showing honor.

Ask any clergyman - we all lament the shabby t-shirts and faded jeans we constantly see at baptisms, weddings and funerals. Milestone events in life, treated like a trip to the store.

Even funeral directors, who have often made their "funeral homes" into "funeral cathedrals" are now lamenting the loss of respect for the funeral ritual - and the income for them that goes with it.

I am so sorry about your friend.

May God be merciful to her soul, and may her soul dwell with the righteous.

[Big Paul]

Sorry to hear about your friend.. You have my condolences.

When it comes to kilted attire, it's us that should be asking your opinion.. You will be fine.

No matter the situation, it's far better to be over dressed than to ever be under dressed..

[Southern Breeze]

Graham,I'm sorry to hear about your friend.It's always the hardest when they are young.You have my condolences on the loss of your friend.

[Graham]

Thank you all for your kind words and thoughts.
The death has devastated the family, the wife has already spoken to me about possibly leaving her husband because of his lack of support (he has bi-polar disease).....I won't bore you with all the rest , but it's a mess.

My wife and I are simply trying to offer our love and counsel. With God's help, when tragedy strikes it can often be a stregthening experience, sadly, in this families case it is having the opposite affect.

I'm hopeful that after the funeral, healing will begin.

As far as the kilt is concerned, the family knows me as a kilted person, they won't be concerned.
I know this can be discussed here, but it seems silly to be even thinking about what I'm going to wear to this funeral.

Your prayers are coveted for Friday, actually, make that Thursday - or else Friday will be gone here!