Dressing up is never inappropriate for a funeral. It is a way of showing respect and love for the departed and their kin. Just be sure it is not your "ordinary" kilt and outfit. Then, you are just doing the equivalent of wearing jeans.

Dressing for the occasion is showing honor.

Ask any clergyman - we all lament the shabby t-shirts and faded jeans we constantly see at baptisms, weddings and funerals. Milestone events in life, treated like a trip to the store.

Even funeral directors, who have often made their "funeral homes" into "funeral cathedrals" are now lamenting the loss of respect for the funeral ritual - and the income for them that goes with it.

I am so sorry about your friend.

May God be merciful to her soul, and may her soul dwell with the righteous.