I want to thank all of you very much for your words of support and advice. I have read all of the responses several times over, and many previous posts on this subject as well.
As of now, I have my wifes support to attend the meeting, and I will. And I will obide by the outcome. My instincts tell me to put this dog back to sleep, but the braveheart in me wants to face this challenge. I must at least try. I have been in much turmoil because I love my job and everything about it. It's the best job I've ever had, but I also know that if we continually shy away from these type of things, we won't get very far very fast.
I will not present myself in an adversarial or confrontational way, but will discuss the issue in a logical, reasonable, and objective manner. I will have a couple of pictures with me to show that a kilted man can look professional. The last thing I want to do is embarrass my kilted brethren, or represent them in a poor light. My wife said to remember that I'm at the negotiating table, not the battlefield, and I must approach it with the innocence of a lamb, and the cunning of ten foxes. That I will do. I will be preparred, use what few wits I have, and do my level best for all of us.
I am much obliged to all of you for your help. I will certainly let you know how things went.
Highest regards to all,
Reggie