Bless me father, for I have sinned.

[Bob C]

Frank, how would you like your relationship with your daughter-in-law to be? Picking a fight with her %#^$ for brains father is unlikely to acheive what you want.

You misread it. It's not his new in-law. It's his ex-wife's new man. Exactly the kind of guy who needs to be told to take a dump in his hat.

I agree with the others, though - find out how the kids feel. If they're ok with the kilt, wear it. If not, give them their day, their way.

[Alan H]

I agree with everyone lese here, Frank. It's your sons day, and his brides. If they're cool with it, then go kilted. If not, then have a pair of trousers in the car. Your ex is irrelevant in this particular decision.

[ronstew]

You misread it.

Indeed I did. Thanks.

[mbhandy]

Well Here is a question for the kilted. I have been invited to my a wedding reception for my son and his new bride. It is on the day of a highland festival closer to his home than mine. I will be kilted at the festival, but should I go to the reception Kilted? It will be out doors and I will be going back to the Highland games after the reception. The biggest problem will be that my son's mother will be there with her redneck tickturd husband. Do I change for the reception, or go as is. I have two weeks to decide. Oh by the way, the Highland Games will be in Urbana Maryland, just south of Frederick, in County Frederick, Maryland.

Frank

between a rock and an idiot

Not exactly a rock or an idiot.
Just let your son know that you are attending the highland games(kilted) and returning to the games(kilted). You are letting him know that you are dressed for the games and are coming to visit his reception just put on a coat and tie for the reception kilts dress up with little effort. If you are wearing a great kilt make sure to Bravehart it all the way and


bring your




If you wear your sword with style ,ain't gon'a get no comments.

:rolleyes:Just let your Son know in advance.

MrBill

PS all advice is tongue in cheek ask your son and daughter inlaw.

[mbhandy]

I decided to leave the kilt at home.

When I got there it was beastly hot. I mentioned that "I should have brought the kilt!"
My mom said, "I'm so glad you didn't. I would have to tell the neighbors that you didn't come to Arizona..."

Disappointing, yes. But in the end, I suppose it was better not to cause my folks the mental strife.

Still, I feel odd that I didn't go kilted purely because of someone elses opinion.

Thus ends the confession for the day.

Me ole Son Dina you brrring som tarrrtan sharts an a Xmarrrks Tshert?


MrBill

[Streetcar]

Ahh, thanks all for helping to dissipate the clouds of self doubt.

I know my folks don't think there are any "gender issues" with me and the kilt - I do think it's just a pretty damned uncommon sight for those midwestern eyes.

I did take the opportunity to talk up some of the Highland Games while I was there. I haven't researched if there are any games near Tucson, but if there are, I think I might swing back down and drag them along. Who knows? I might get Dear Ole Da in a kilt himself one day....

[bangkok kilt]

Frank, I agree with the many comments already posted: Ask the ones getting married! If they like the idea then go for it!

[Kilted KT]

I'll take the other side of this coin...I personally feel that you can wear the kilt as you wish, when you wish. At the reception, Is someone checking the other guests, to make sure their dress isn't cut too low, slit too high, or just plain gaudy? is someone checking to make sure that everyone's suits and tux's match, and are not some off polyester leisure suit? Family is just that - family. I am sure there will be someone there who will make a bigger fool of themselves without any help from a kilt.

Be proud of who you are, and live like you want to.

[motorman4life]

The kilt is just another article of clothing. It is your choice what you want to wear and when and how. If you think it would upset someone if you showed up in shorts and you would show the courtesy of not wearing shorts, then you may want to consider showing the same courtesy by not wearing your kilt. Being considerate of others, even if their bias is based upon ignorance or generational issues, is still the right thing to do.

If I was going to a semi-formal event and was determined to wear a kilt, I would probably dress it up a bit. In the case of attending the games and going to a reception, I would likely wear the kilt and explain I just came from the games.

A lot of times I get asked by strangers if I am coming from the highland games or a dancing event. I usually reply, "No, are you?"

Anyhow, you shouldn't feel guilty for considering the feelings of others, even if their feelings are based upon a lack of understanding, bias or ignorance. If you respect them, it is right to respect their feelings. Even if you don't agree.

[SB996]

If you can wear the kilt without creating a major scene wear it proud. The wearing of your kilt, dressed up for the reception, should not be a distraction or problem.