brutal first kilted outing

[Kiltedfirepiper]

my wife notices the comments and stares more than I do I just go about my day oblivious to whats going on around me ......
and its not that my wife doesnt like me in a kilt...its just she sees if there is going to be a problem with someone before I do, and will give me a heads up so if it comes to a head then I will be prepared for it......but usually if I call someone out on it ....they scurry away to what ever hole they came from.

mind you I'm only 5'9'' and on a good day I weigh about 168 soaking wet, but I 'll walk up to a guy thats 6'8" look him square in the eyes and ask if he really has a problem or is he just tryin to be funny?
those are few and far between but it is effective for me..... your mileage may vary

[Riverkilt]

Welcome,

Hope you cruise this board and see how much more common positive comments are when kilted.

Two very common Anglo Saxon words come to mind for such rudeness...but its rough when you don't have someone to engage. Don't let him in.

Think it through. Why should someone elses's opinion effect your choice of garments for the day?

Another, more polite, response to rude comments - particularly from "friends" is, "Why do you say that?" Puts them on the spot.

Ungird thy juevos and enjoy the freedom. "Juevos Libre!"

Ron

[cessna152towser]

It's a very sick and sad person who feels the urge to makes rude remarks at strangers yet is so chronically inadequate that he/she needs to hide in the crowd and hope he/she doesn't get caught making the remark. Bear in mind he/she will have made similar stupid loudmouth remarks about quite a few other people at the car show; maybe not about a kilt but about the colour of their shirt; tightness of trousers; style of shoes or whatever. Also very abnormal behaviour as thousands of other people will also have seen you in your kilt and made no remark. Wear a kilt with pride and you stand tall above these weirdos.

[Frank]

So sad how the need for peer approval manifests itself among inadequate men.

I would imagine the translation of what the buddied up cretin really meant was - "how come he gets to wear one of those and I can't. It's not fair."

I can't seriously think he meant - "What ? Freedom to wear what I want ? No siree ? I'm far more happier having a restricted choice - and no mistake..."

Absolute dork.

[Frank McGrath]

Do your own thing and don't listen to the morons. Thos of us that are kilted are on a different level than those that have just come out of the ooze. I wore mine to a concert last night and a woman wanted me to dance for her. I told her this was a drinking kilt not a dancing kilt and she believed me.. Just before the concert started, the cop at the gate told me I had class. So for every bad comment, you will get 10 good ones, even if you don't hear them. Continue wearing the klt. Its's a good thing.

[Pour1Malt]

rough indeed lad-

nay bother-

dinnae let the ignoramuses bring ya doon!

[GTRMAN]

When I first started getting interested in kilts this spring I originally only intended to wear one at Celtic festivals, but after finding this forum I thought "what the heck, maybe I'll try wearing one out a bit." I picked up my first kilt (Amerikilt) 2 weeks ago at a Celtic festival and got hooked wearing it around that day (obviously a friendly crowd, so to speak.) My first time wearing it in the general public was to a July 4th fireworks display which sort of didn't count because it was fairly dark and everyone was looking up anyway, but the people who noticed only stared slightly. I was totally unprepared for yesterday's reactions wearing the kilt to a large car show. Within 10 minutes of arriving I heard the comment from someone behind me, "nice skirt, Fag#@t." No idea who said it but all day there were people pointing and laughing from a distance or just stopping dead and staring like they were hit by a board. I didn't let it ruin my day and didn't change into the shorts I brought along, either. I didn't think negative comments would bother me but yesterday's experience was kind of rough. The only positive comment all day came from a friend's wife (and my wife of course.) Another positive, a few years ago, I would never have had the self confidence to wear a kilt to a car show and I will say that this won't stop me in the future.

That is brutal..
I've gotten the dirty looks and some sneers myself but, overall, the reactions are very positive.. I started wearing kilts last October and now I don't wear pants at all except for when I'm training or teaching at the Taekwondo School. In fact EVERYWHERE I went this weekend I was receiving positive comments.

When I was Hiking at Great Falls(Billy Goat Trail) I had two women come up and compliment me(two separate instances)....
When I was at the Ram's Head Tavern a couple of hours later, the hostess knew about Utilikilts and complimented me...
When I went to the bar later, the barmaid said that she love utilikilts and wished her husband would wear his...(she bought it for him).
At the Hardware store, while checking out, some guy comes up to me and says "nice kilt" and then proceeded to tell me that he has two of his own(Utilikilts).
At the movies yesterday... Woman looks at me as I'm getting ready to sit down and compliments me on my kilt and tells me that it looks great and more people should wear them...

Wait 'til you start having THESE experiences..

[Kilted2006]

It is rather funny, how the first poster pointed out, that when these guys call you such names and taunt you they are either usually in large groups and surrounded by these big, fat thug looking guys, and that they usually are much more timmid on their own. Once I looked at a guy too long than necessary and he called me a really offensive name, but in the end I just rolled my eyes and ignored it. The guy was just being a total jackass and I was staring at him because he was being so stupid and immature, yet he obviously thought I had 'designs' on him. Idiot.
Insecurity about one's masculinity is often the cause of it, especially when there is a group of guys around and it is normally the smaller guy in the group who has the big mouth and is a big guy when surrounded by his bigger, buffer offsiders, but when you get them alone they are not so......forward in their comments. Although at the time I know you really feel like slamming their head into the nearest thick wall But if you do that it's you who will get in trouble and they won by getting a rise out of you, which is why they really do it in the first place. Got nothing better to do so I'll just see if I can get someone really pissed off, and if he tried to hit me I'll just hide behind me big mate Biff here. It's total playground politics that have never truly left us.

[arrogcow]

Propper response , is to reply in a proud and happy voice, "Sorry not gay (or you're not my type is you are gay) , you'll have to find a date somewhere else."

As others have said, I've only had this kind of reactions from groups of guys (usually teens) , and only when they had the safety of a moving car.
Adam

[Mysticwolf]

Canawler,
That is indeed brutal,but as others have already said, the positive comments will come, and they will more than make up for it. The more you wear your kilt in 'everyday" situations, the more it will happen. I had two very positive experiences at local grocery stores. Met the President of the local Rugby Club, and another gent of Celtic heritage and had wonderful conversations with each of them.
Things will get better, and any negative comments will start to fall like water off a duck's back.