Told NO!

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My Wife is the same way. This is a problem with her perception of what the kilt wearing is about. She may have given you more information than we realise.

She feels you're dressing this way to get attention. Which means she dresses up to get attention. Which means she may feel you will not give her the attention she is wanting becuase you will be getting all the attention...Who's on first?

Anyway, Robin is spot on with the strategy of wear it in more casual settings for a while and allwo her to warm up to it a bit.

A friend had a wedding a few months ago Where the invitation said "Formal Opptional", and I decided I wanted to wear my kilt and "PC-like" outfit I've compiled. I asked my friend if she would mind if I wore my kilt. Of course she said it would be fine, so I asked again for her to tell me if she was truely OK with it becuase I did not want to create any problems for her wedding. She again said it was OK. My Wife did not want me to wear it for the same reason your wife has told you. I told her that the people coming to this wedding were coming to see my friend, not me. We had quite a blow out argument and basically, I implemented some guerilla tactics of faining surrender in anticipation of her conceeding so I would not have a victory to hold over her later. (Why women insist on doing this is beyond me, but knowing it will happen, I will use it to my benefit). I told her OK I won't wear the kilt. She waited a few hours and then came back and said I cold wear the kilt. What she wanted was to know that She was more important to me at the wedding than wearing the kilt. She still doesn't like it, but she's getting more used to it. After over a year and a half she's approaching neutrality

Anyway, since this is an event it sounds like you will do again, I would not make this the hill to die on. Concede and see what she does but encourage her that you really want to be there with her and whatever reaction others have is up to them.