I won't hazard marital advice, but I have been to a number of performances at the theater kilted. And as someone else said, unless you are on stage (KCW), no one sees the kilt when the lights go down and the curtain goes up.

However, people-watching in the lobby during intermission is always great sport.

A few weeks ago, I saw The Light in the Piazza here in Cincinnati. During the intermission, I noticed a number of slow glances downward in my direction - some along noses with chins pulled back - but my kilt was mostly ignored and unnoticed.

While my companion left to attend to his personal needs, I stood and scanned the crowd, exchanging nods of silent greeting here and there, when I turned and faced a gentleman not far from where I was standing, grinning at me from ear to ear.

He approached me and extended his hand. "I'd just like to say..." he began.

Ah, here it comes, I thought, and prepared myself to go in to gracious mode.

"...you have the most magificent..."

Wow, he is really impressed!

"...moustache!"









At this point, I think I heard a timpani tuning and a spring come loose in my head, as I switched gears for the unexpected compliment.

Learning to deal with the attention that comes with the kilt, both positive and negative, takes time. And while you are in control of when you choose to put yourself in those situations, those around you may not be as prepared and may feel helpless in coping with unwanted attention. You can acknowledge the discomfort of the important people in your life by making accommodations, but seek other opportunities to help them work through their concerns.

Regards,
Rex.