Told NO!

[Mark Keeney]

I had to go hug my wife again because she supports my kilt wearing.

This is a trap many men put themselves in. They ask their wives if this goes together and setting the wife up as the clothing expert. That gives them power. Some men even let their wives pick out their clothes for the day.

I never asked, and my wife would never tell me what to wear. We men can dress ourselves and can learn to coordinate colors just as well as women. I would never presume to tell my wife what to wear and she would never tell me.

Only exception is, I will ask if a particular event is casual or dressy.

[Mike1]

Lighten up, Robert. We have pointed out, time and again that the term 'nazi' is not appreciated and is unacceptable on this forum.

[R. Anderson]

Well I picked my battle and went in a suit and tie. Wife was happy, concert was excellent, and now I'm planning a kilted outting this weekend. Tomorrow night my co-workers are heading out for drinks and dinner. They like the kilt and I've wore it many a time to the workplace (elementary school). So everything is good and I thank you all for your insight into this matter. You were a great help. :-)

[ian]

Forego the kilt. Carry no thought of the occassion afterward. DO NOT remember that you did not wear the kilt. Rather, focus on the concert, your companions and the fun of it all. Do not pocket any ammunition, it makes searing charlie horses. It also distracts you away from clear thinking. You ought, however, make a noticeable hint of a specific dress or outfit for the wife at some future time while in the process of suiting yourself up into that excellent kilt. Sooner would be better. Most important, be sincere in your laughter and love your wife, starting now!

You and your sound advice, ENOUGH! ENOUGH I SAY!

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind at times. Luckily, my wife doesn't care one way or another.

Yea, if he insists he may regret it later. Better to live through it for one night than suffer for it weeks later.

[bubba]

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind

You're not supposed to, it's just the way it works.

[ian]

You and your sound advice, ENOUGH! ENOUGH I SAY!

Well, you do have a point, but I don't understand the female mind at times. Luckily, my wife doesn't care one way or another.

Yea, if he insists he may regret it later. Better to live through it for one night than suffer for it weeks later.

That I gloated about the fact my wife didn't care.

This morning she asked me to take her to a dinner and movie. I asked "Should I wear a kilt or my trews?" She said there was a time and place for everything and didn't want me to wear a kilt because she didn't want "attention being drawn to you."

What?!? This is the first time this has happened. I have gone out to dinners and movies wearing a kilt quite often. This isn't a Broadway play or an Opera, but "dinner and a movie."

I find it odd that conditions are placed on men that woman don't feel obliged to respect themselves. A woman has the freedom to wear a skirt or a cowboy hat and boots, dress and move in and out at their pleasure of being a woman one minute and the feminists ideal "as good as a man." It could be attire attributed to men or women. Maybe even showing a little more cleavage if they wish. It's not a privilege, but a right.

Men are not afforded the opportunity to wear a decidedly male garment due to the attention it MAY get. I could care less about the attention factor. Most people don't say anything or even care. It's an issue of respect and it works both ways. I was shocked. I thought it would never happen or be an issue. She has bought me 2 kilts.

Sorry, I change my position. If women want respect for their choices, they should respect their spouse's wishes. Women predominately dress for attention as a rule more so than men. Why go to the Beauty shop, paint nails etc? I'm not seeking attention nor will I dump my wife in the restaurent if a waitress makes a comment.

I asked her why her logic applied to me and not to her. "What if I shaved my head and worn a suit and a tie, would you feel comfortable." I simply said "Go ahead, I could dress like Eddy Izzard, (Executive Transvestite) you accept his appearence." Is Izzard doing it for attention or the fact he wants to? She said it was to enjoy "our" night out, which "our" implies both of us.

She is a supportive woman, but it just hit me like a fart in a divers mask.

[Mark Keeney]

That I gloated about the fact my wife didn't care.

This morning she asked me to take her to a dinner and movie. I asked "Should I wear a kilt or my trews?" She said there was a time and place for everything and didn't want me to wear a kilt because she didn't want "attention being drawn to you."

Why did you ask? You set yourself up. Why can't women bear attention given to the men they are with?

My wife needs a night on the town she loves my kilt.

[Monkey@Arms]

And then again, today my wife pointed out a shirt in the L.L. Bean catalog that she thought would go well with one my kilts. So, I guess the short answer is you can never figure women out from one day to the next, as if that's news. As to why I ask, I value her opinion, I care about her feelings, and because she's my partner.

Best regards,

Jake

[ian]

Why did you ask? You set yourself up. Why can't women bear attention given to the men they are with?

My wife needs a night on the town she loves my kilt.

It was either the trews (which I picked up at a vintage shop for $10, perfect shape) or the kilt, I thought she'd choose the kilt as usual.

[Rigged]

Oh man! Sometimes women do this stuff to test us. I think it's a test of power. Sometimes they're very conscious of it and other times it's more like a reflex.

If my wife said I couldn't wear my kilt to a dinner and movie out, I'd probably tell her something like, "Well, I really feel more comfortable wearing a kilt so we can rent a movie, order some take-out and stay home."

But then my wife likes me in kilts so I don't get tested on that issue. I get tested on other stuff.