Question

[Pour1Malt]

Hey Dragon,

This is manipulative, and not about kilts, but could easily be adapted.

A good friend, then in his late 40s, wanted a Harley. He could well afford it but knew his wife would be opposed.

So, he started bringing home library books about hang gliding. Then he brought home sales brochures for hang gliders. He let that sink in a while. Then he started looking at Harley brochures and she flat encouraged him to buy a bike.

Once he had the Harley she loved it.

Maybe you could do the same...just pick something she's most revolted or frightened by.

Ron

aye... suggest hang glidin in a kilt...

that'll dae it!

[haukehaien]

My wife made my first kilt.

She's the best!

[JimB]

Having already ventured into the kilt making world, you really don't know what you are asking her to do by asking her to make you one. Maybe she knows which is why she doesn't want to go there.
Show her a nice looking inexpensive kilt from one of the sponsors here on the site. Show her some pics of folks out and about in them.

The important thing is to get her to accept just one kilt, even just for occasional use. Then you can get her used to them gradually.

[JimB]

aye... suggest hang glidin in a kilt...

that'll dae it!

You crack me up

[cavscout]

I started typing a very long and rambling response to detail the issues I've had with my wife, but let me just sum it up that my wife would prefer I not wear a kilt. She doesn't like it at all. I made every effort to respect her feelings without betraying myself but it was clear that her position was she didn't want the kilt (period).

Bottom line, she does need a bit of time to get used to it so there's no need to drop the hammer on her right from the start. If she is willing to let it grow on her for a bit that is positive. If she is firm on her opinion that she doesn't like it and will never like it (or even tolerate it), then you have to decide if it is important enough to you to deal with the arguments that will come from it.

You're not the first to cross this bridge. I'm still in the middle of it and they keep builing on

[Cawdorian]

My wife originally suggested that I get myself a kilt, we were at the Kirk'in a few years ago, the minister (wearing a kilt) said he thought I would look good in a kilt and my wife agreed and said she wished I would get one. I bought the first one and promptly wore it to the family Thanksgiving dinner at the daughter's, she kind of balked at my wearing it to the dinner, but I insisted I was going to wear it anyway. After all the family needed to get used to the idea.

Since that time she has seen numerous men wearing kilts at several Kirk'ins and quite a few St Andrew's Society events, now she accepts kilt wearing as reasonably normal behavior on my part. She has found out that many men wear kilts and that it is a perfectly acceptable mode of dress.

This year I got her a 10 oz. McDonald tartan sash and a McDonald clan badge for her to wear to these events. She is looking forward to wearing it the St Andrew's Day dinner and the Kirk'in. She knows we are going to be a really sharp couple.

I think some of the reluctance to accept the kilt stems from lack of exposure to the kilt, perhaps they don't realize that there are places where the kilt is more than welcome. I always try to dress suitably for any event we attend, sometmes a suit is correct, other time the kilt is correct.

[GreenDragon]

Having already ventured into the kilt making world, you really don't know what you are asking her to do by asking her to make you one. Maybe she knows which is why she doesn't want to go there.
Show her a nice looking inexpensive kilt from one of the sponsors here on the site. Show her some pics of folks out and about in them.

The important thing is to get her to accept just one kilt, even just for occasional use. Then you can get her used to them gradually.

she's "artsy and crafty" and i figured she'd be all for making something. she loves to paint and make stuff.

[switchblade5984]

Hey Dragon,

This is manipulative, and not about kilts, but could easily be adapted.

A good friend, then in his late 40s, wanted a Harley. He could well afford it but knew his wife would be opposed.

So, he started bringing home library books about hang gliding. Then he brought home sales brochures for hang gliders. He let that sink in a while. Then he started looking at Harley brochures and she flat encouraged him to buy a bike.

Once he had the Harley she loved it.

Maybe you could do the same...just pick something she's most revolted or frightened by.

Ron

wow that is dirty and underhanded! i like it

my wife didnt care either way

[beerbecue]

My wife thought it was a little weird at first,

But now she tries to find ways to go out so I can wear one!!

[Norbydog]

My story is one of sympathy

I had met my wife, but we were still in dating mode. I was training full contact fighting hard core at the time, and the team started wearing Sportkilts. Since I can't have a match, due to my job, and can only train the sport, I didn't really feel like a member of the team.

Well, I came home one night with a broken nose from sparring. I decided that was as good as a fulll membership and ordered my sportkilt. The wife did not protest, as I think she felt bad for me with a swollen face and black eyes.

I don't think she thought it would explode into what it did. The kilt addiction did not start until I got married, in a gorgeous 3 strap tank.

Now, it is just out of control she says.

But I know she loves them.