Quote Originally Posted by dirkskene
I started wearing one early June of this year. I had thought about it for years but thought I could not afford it. I did not know about the "off the rack" models. My wife was the one that encouraged it and found Semaus' site Sport Kilt. She ordered me a USA fashion tartan kilt. When it got here & I tried it on she totally changed. It was a case of "OK now put it away and you can were it to ren-fairs."

Not on your life! I was hooked.

She always referred to my kilt as my skirt & my sporran as my purse.

She pitched a fit & got real agitated anytime I wore it out saying she was embarrassed to be seen with me in public. One time we were going to the zoo and she asked what I was wearing. I told her "a kilt of course". She got out the most outlandish clothes she could muster up and even stuck a purple feather boa through her back belt loops for a tail. When it was obvious this did not phase me (and it really did not)she took it all off & dresses normally.

Now I have 3 kilts. 2 of these from Sport Kilt. I have 2 more on order from another supplier with my eye on a total of 18 from Sport Kilt, USA Kilts, Freedom & others. Within the next year I hope to get Matt Newson to make me one in the Clan Skene tartan and the Tennessee tartan after that.

Within the last 2 weeks it seems she has not as much animosity to the kilt. I think she is slowly accepting the fact that kilts are my normal casual and formal wear. Last night we went to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant and did some shopping at Target. She made no negative comments.

I love my wife. I do not like ANY confrontation, but like my beard, I am not giving up my kilts for anybody. That's just me.

Each relationship is different. My technique has been to just not give it up.

I've been having a pretty similar problem. My wife and I have been married for 5 1/2 years (and we've got our first little one on the way), but she has known that I've wanted a kilt since before we got married, I wanted to get married in a kilt, but due to costs ended up married in a suit... so it's not like she had no idea. She just always used the lack of money as an excuse...

Then I found cheap kilts. I have a UK, and I'll be ordering a Stillwater Standard shortly, but she all of a sudden can't stand the idea of a kilt. She says I embarrass her and I obviously don't care how she feels about it... To which I replied that she cares a lot more about what complete strangers think about us/me then she cares what I think... and it just went downhill from there.

Then she pulled the, "It makes you look effeminate/People will think you're effeminate..."

Ha I say! I'm 6' and 250 lbs (not quite as much muscle as I had in college at the same weight, but still...), I enjoy various types of sport shooting and have trained in multiple martial arts... If some one wants to say that I'm a girlie-man they're more than welcome to that opinion. I know the truth, and isn't that what matters?

So anytime I wear the kilt, she assumes I'm doing it to piss her off... I guess one day she'll figure out the truth. The truth is, I do it to make sure everyone knows I really don't care what they think and because its the most comfortable darn thing in the world.

I find it interesting because we have a standing rule since we started dating that while we may express opinions, we don't exert any kind of pressure/influence over each other's chosen hair style and in my case, facial hair... It's always been a point of pride in our relationship that we give each other that freedom...I assumed it carried over to clothing (it always has from me to her... even when she wanted to wear her bib overalls...). I even told her during the last kilt argument that if she wanted to wear clothes made of flour sacks then I really wouldn't care, and if strangers gave me guff about it, I'd tell them I married the best woman in the world cuz she doesn't care about what other people say about her, she's just true to herself... Oh well...

Sorry for the ramble, I don't actually have anyone here to complain about this too... Stupid Texans don't understand the kilt either (well, not most of them)...