Thank you WSK - and everyone - for your advice.

I could not agree with you more, and in fact, writing things down is my strength by far, and often something I do when we have disagreements. This is not something I intend to let fall by the wayside. I don't want to sit around and wonder what she thinks about it. I'm glad in a way that she told me this. We have always been very careful about being open and honest with each other and talking about everything, because we both feel it's very important. I love my future wife more than anything, and certainly more than kilts, but that doesn't mean I have to give them up. Like I said one of the real dissapointments was that I thought it was something we both shared enjoyment of, and I turned out to be totally wrong. This, I find, is one of the typical female outlooks on male behaviour. It's all fine and good - and even cool and interesting - until we take it seriously.

In this case, I think there's give on both sides. She needs to become a little more educated about kilts and kilting, and the fact that, while it might be uncommon, it is not wierd to wear them casually as well as formally. I need to understand that my views are obviously more relaxed than hers (which is true), and that it will take some time and effort for her to adjust. This has always been a challenge for us because we were raised in very different environments. Her family is a lot more 'formal and proper', where as mine is extremely casual and basically doesn't care what others do or what others think of us.