Help with the Wife!!!!

[cherokeesix]

OK Gents!!! I'm a bit pissed!! As you can see from the exclamation marks!!! I just received my first kilt from Aussieland in the mail (off the peg Blackwatch) and couldn't wait to put it on. I had gotten my kilt hose a couple of days ago from Hamilton drygoods and so, that's all I had at the moment. Anyway, I put it on and thought.....well, without the belt and sporan, I think it looks pretty good. Lo and behold, my wife looks at it and says "Damn, that looks like a skirt to me!!" She tends to lean toward the narrow-minded side on more than one occasion. I guess I should have waited to show her until I had the rest of the stuff. Just feeling a little pissed off that she doesn't share in the pride I feel in the history and loyalty to my heritage. Sorry, a little bit fuzzy after sending her off to bed by herself and having a few more glasses to ease the sting of non-support. Any suggestions on swinging the other half my way? Maybe not. My 7 year old thought it was cool and is anxiously awaiting his that is being made in Scotland as I write. Hope is in the children to keep the heritage alive!!!!!!!

Patrick

[Tattoo Bradley]

There are many tales of woe like yours amongst these boards.
Don't try to cram it down her throat, that won't help I assure you. Try to ease into it. Keep in mind this is not your decision alone, it directly affects her as well. If you show her consideration, it should be returned.

[Big Mikey]

Be patient. Other forum members have found that given time though spouses may not be supportive, they are at least accepting. I am fortunate in that my lovely wife thinks I look great in a kilt, I just have to control purchases! Good luck.

[Pour1Malt]

show her some o' the piccie threids oan this board...

that should help.

try these- http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/f...splay.php?f=98

[dwg]

look as good (smart) as you possible as you can, shirt tie etc

take your time and don't rub her nose it, little by little

Derek

[McMurdo]

You might want to take her to a local highland games or some other event where kilted gentlemen will be present, just to show her you are not insane.
Remember not to rush into it, and always dress to impress.

Good luck with it.

[ckelly327]

Like others said, ease her into it. My wife still thinks that the kilts are only for certain ocassions but it's gotten to the point that if I ask her about wearing a kilt to dinner or church she says, "If you really want to." This is coming a long way from, "No, you'll embarrass me." Dress it up a little the first few times so that she can see that the kilt is a dignified man's garment. Good Luck and congratulations on the new kilt.

[Rusty]

Patrick,
first a belated welcome from North Dakota.
As the others on this forum have said, ease into things gradually. Your wife is probably not used to seeing kilts up close and personal, she needs to become acclimatized. Set a date for May 4, 2007 for the Triad Highland Games at Bryan Park. Come the day, get dressed up, remember this is not really a formal activity so don't over do things. The Idea is to get her used to the kilts, and at the highland games where better to see men in kilts.

You never know your wife just might enjoy it

[Splash_4]

To echo what everyone else has said. If you get your wife to a highland games, she will see that it is not uncommon for men to wear kilts. It will also give her a chance to understand a bit of the heritage. Make sure to take her by the clan tents that you might be associated with.... And most of all, remember that your relationship with your wife is much more important than a piece of cloth!

[turpin]

I echo Splash 4's advice on going to the clan tents. You will generally find them extremely hospitable and welcoming, which may go a long way toward putting your wife in a more positive frame of mind (not to mention the contribution that the "refreshments you often find there definitely help with attitude adjustment).

And welcome to the forum.