I need some help

[Braveheart88]

I would respect his rules while you live in his home. Find some more special occasions, like April 6, to wear the kilt. Do not do this just to differentiate from your parents. I have a family member who does not like kilts, and gets a little put out when she has to be around one. Is his family background Celtic? Maybe get him a tie in a tartan that is part of his heritage. That would be seen as a thoughtful way of linking your kilt wearing to your heritage. Besides Father's Day is coming up soon, so you have an excuse.

Yeah, his great gradmother was a McDavid. But, alas, he already has a tie in the Davidson tartan. He's not anti-kilt, just anti-kilt-out-of-the-house-when-not-a-celtic-holiday

[katmills2005]

Guys, he may be 18 but he may also still live with his dad. And I can understand that level of respect.

As far as your dad goes, have you asked him why he feels you should only wear a kilt for special events? Once you know what is really holding him back then you will find your path to converting his stance much easier. Also, list the reasons you want to wear a kilt. Write them down and add reasons under each that would make a good argument for wearing them. That way when you do reopen the discussion you will be prepared.

[Fearnest]

You are legally an adult you can do as you please. But he can also toss you out on your ear. Approch it gently. Maybe check the calender for as many special dates as you can.

Get your own place as soon as you can

It's FRIDAY!!! Time to celebrate!

The day ends in "y"!!! Another time to celebrate...

[Kilted KT]

I missed that part about living at home...tread lightly with the issue until you have your own place.

[mcvarmit]

just a thought,

why not just join the Marine Corps, once your out, you will always be a former marine, you'll belong to the McSemper Fi clan, and we got us one hell of a nice kilt? you will be able to wear it anytime you want.

i joined the corps when i was 17, and have never regreted it.

semper fi

slick USMC 64-67

[Braveheart88]

Guys, he may be 18 but he may also still live with his dad. And I can understand that level of respect.

As far as your dad goes, have you asked him why he feels you should only wear a kilt for special events? Once you know what is really holding him back then you will find your path to converting his stance much easier. Also, list the reasons you want to wear a kilt. Write them down and add reasons under each that would make a good argument for wearing them. That way when you do reopen the discussion you will be prepared.

Well, I didn't want to say anything because I didn't know what kind of reaction I'd get. My family is larger than normal so we already get some comments about that, and my dad thinks that wearing a kilt will bring more unwanted attention. As far as why I want to wear the kilt, comfort is the biggest factor.

just a thought,

why not just join the Marine Corps, once your out, you will always be a former marine, you'll belong to the McSemper Fi clan, and we got us one hell of a nice kilt? you will be able to wear it anytime you want.

i joined the corps when i was 17, and have never regreted it.

semper fi

slick USMC 64-67

That'll go over well with my ex-Navy dad I'm planning to go into the service, tough (Navy like my dad, but I want to be a fighter pilot.)

By all means go kilted more often, but my advice would be don't ditch the trousers completely. There will always be that occasion perhaps once or twice a month when trousers can be a more appropriate clothing choice; for example certain types of work; clambering into a small boat or aeroplane on a windy day; or maybe a night out with your dad.

Hey, it's funny you should mention airplanes. I'm studying for my pilot's license

[GMan]

Oh yes 18, I just wish that I had known the joy of Kilt wearing then. Good for you.

Without really knowing all the family dynamics involved I would suggest that you and your Dad decide on one day a week and special occasions to be Kilted. Once people see you in a Kilt, they will want you to see you in a Kilt and request that you show up Kilted. I have been invited and requested to be Kilted at a party.

It will take time, but it is well worth it.

[thescot]

As an adult, you can do anything you like. You won't find much in the way of negative responses from most people, but then there is you dad. He's probably more important than many others put together.

But as a human being, I think you should at least consider your father's feelings. You'll have to figure that out for yourself.

I am 54, and I still do things a little differently when at my mother's house. She just doesn't have to know everything, and at her age, she's entitled to be who she is as well.

So, think it all over and do what is right. That's the best thing to do.

[Braveheart88]

You won't find much in the way of negative responses from most people...

And you don't think us being a large family will change that?

[Roan Carter]

My dad gave me the same arguement. Idunno how it would work in your family but I just went on to wear my kilt regardless. As time passed, I got real smooth at putting together casual looking outfits that defeated his "costume" argument. I just look like a rebel, or a Scottish youth now.

Just the other day he complimented my outfit and told me it looked like it was meant to be worn this way. I can't recall what it was that I was wearing exactly -- just something plain and semi-sporty, like a t-shirt with retro team numbers on it or something.

Anyways. Show some courage and some dressing smarts. Wear it as you want to, and make it look good. If you have to argue much, something's wrong.