No kilt at the wedding, or some people still don't get it

[Canadian_Kilt]

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

I have to say absolutely do not do this.

I fully agree with Caradoc. The wedding party and principle guests (MC, Ushers etc) wear what you tell them to wear, and changing out of it later is rude and insulting to the bride and groom.

If you don't like the outfit, don't go, or decline to be in the wedding party. If you can't do something as simple as wear a tux for one night for a friend, then you shouldn't be in the wedding party in the first place.

However there's nothing wrong with some good-natured ribbing for making you wear it .. ;)

[Blu (Ontario)]

... I would not go to any function that told me not to wear my kilt.... If anyone wants to ask me to any function, without my kilt, I would politely decline there invitation, as we are a double act.

I quite agree with your sentiments there, but there are times when my absense just isn't an option.

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[Kid Cossack]

Just ask him for help figuring out how to put trousers on, that'll teach him.

[Blu (Ontario)]

LOL - just take the kilt to change into for the reception and dancing!

I think this would probably be my inclination as well.

Change into kilt & kit for the dinner & dance. The formal wear attire tends to be shed quickly anyway once the refreshments start flowing... as do the inhibitions of the guests. So I'm not so sure I'd even ask... I'd just show up and let it be a surprise.

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[Nick]

I don't know the reasons they don't want kilts, but I can give my take. I did get married in a kilt, but there was another option me and my lady were considering. Tails, silk top hat, and white satin spats. Real ones, not the rental lookalikes. The kilt won out for many reasons, but I do like the elegant look of the early 20th century, even if it does include trousers. I'd rather be kilted, but in the end the choice of the theme is up to the bride and groom (for the most part.)

[Kiltedfirepiper]

when my buddy asked me to be a grooms man I asked him and his bride
" can I wear my kilt?" they said no because it was a western wedding and it wouldnt look right with all the cowboy stuff...
so I had to wear a western tux for my buddies wedding, but I told them before the big day that if they wanted me to play my bagpipes at the reception that I wanted to wear my kilt...cause playing the pipes in p@NT$
" wouldnt look right"
and you've seen the results
since most people dont want to wear the monkey suits at the reception
( hell most weddings I've been to the bride changes into something more comfortable after the deed is done) see if you can do the same, and wear your kilt at the reception!

KFP

[Streetcar]

It's not your wedding. It's theirs.

You have the choice of doing it their way, or not going. It's up to them to decide what the wedding party is wearing...

Agreed, and I'll take it a step further. For our wedding, I realizied it wasn't "ours" so much as "hers."

If he's really your buddy, don't start his wedded life miserably by giving him a pissed-off bride.

[RCallan]

Wear your kilt to the rehuirsal dinner?

[mcvarmit]

i agree with Mr. Caradoc, it ain't about you.

semper fi

slick

[Panache]

arrogcow (or may I just say Adam),

Wear a kilt to the dress rehearsal dinner and bachelor party.

But as a groomsman, you are there as a trusted and dear friend to the groom.

Your job is to make sure that your friend and his bride have a wonderful day to remember. The groomsmen and bridesmaid should be first on the dancefloor, first in toasting the health of the newly married couple, first in creating an atmosphere of merriment and joy. The day is your friends and unless you have his (and the bride's blessing) I would wear what they ask you to wear. A kilted man in full formal regalia is quite a sight! I was rather amazed the first time I went to a Scottish Country Dance and saw how the ladies outfits faded into the background compared to the glorious men in their kilted outfits. The day is theirs not yours. If I was just attending a wedding I would go in a kilted outfit. If I was in a wedding I would ask my friend what they would be most happy for me to wear. A small gesture, but a priceless gift in terms of loyalty and friendship.

Cheers

Jamie