No kilt at the wedding, or some people still don't get it

[Caradoc]

Agreed, and I'll take it a step further. For our wedding, I realizied it wasn't "ours" so much as "hers."

If he's really your buddy, don't start his wedded life miserably by giving him a pissed-off bride.

If he's smart, he already knows this.

I certainly did... it only took one disagreement over a wedding detail, and then after that it was "Well, honey, I think we might consider doing it this way, but if you want to do it that way, I'm okay with that."

[BonnieT100]

My girlfriend says that if we get married, I'll be wearing my dress blues for the wedding and my kilt for the reception. I suppose I can live with that.

[crboltz]

I'm getting married in a few short months (and I'm making the 6 kilts for the wedding party). I know how sad I would feel if anyone in the party said that they were insulted I was asking them to wear a kilt. Be there for your friend regardless of the dress code -- or don't be there at all. (Now we got engaged just before halloween and when we asked my ring bearer to do his task this very intelligent four year old informed me that "I'm going to be a wizard not a bear. I don't want to be a bear because wizard's are cooler." when I explained he said "But I don't want to be a bear. I want to be a wizard." Now that halloween is past he is looking forward to it (and I showed him what (our) ring bearer will wear, and he thinks its pretty cool)

[mcvarmit]

mr. caradoc,
once again i find myself agreeing with you, i'm on my 2nd marriage, managed to totally piss off the 1st one, keep HER happy on HER wedding day.

semper fi

slick

[beowulf67]

Like others have said, it's their (HER) wedding so you should abide by their requests for what the wedding party wears.
If you want to wear the kilt to the rehersal or reception, then just ask and explain why you like to wear it. But in the end, the day is all about them.

[arrogcow]

Wow, when I posted this, I really didn't expect to get slammed. I was mearly pointing out the irony that a fairly regular kilt wearer, with at least 2 (and maybe as many as 4) kilt wearers for groom dudes was getting married in pants.

I've just always expected this guy to be my one shot at being kilted "in" a wedding (I didn't get to wear a kilt for mine due to various reasons - and I'm happily married for 10 years on the 12th). I know it's all about her (I learned that quick. The proper response to anything wedding related is, "Yes, dear).

I have every intention of going to the wedding. I will be kilted at the bachlor party and the rehersal dinner. After the reception (afternoon), many people are going to Dave & Busters, and I'll be kilted there. However at the wedding and reception I'll be there in pink taffata with a bow on the butt if that's what the bride wants (Man I hope that isn't what she wants).

Give me a little credit, and possibly a little simpathy that I have to wear pants.

Adam

[mcvarmit]

mr. aarogcow,
you didn't get slammed, you just got honest responses. in a day and age when people will tell you anything, its refreshing when someone actuall tells you the truth. just my 2 cents.

semper fi

slick

[auld argonian]

Gee...I have a relative with three children who are reaching marriageable age and I really would prefer it if I wasn't even invited to those weddings.

Thus, I told my wife that she should be grateful for my having found the "kilt thing" as I was going to announce that I would henceforth and forever more be wearing the kilt to any and all special family events that I will ever attend. That ought to make them at least think twice about inviting me and probably create a "gee, I'm sorry...your invitation must have gotten lost in the mail" situation when the times come.

Boo-yeah!

Best

AA

[escherblacksmith]

I don't think people were slamming, just reinforcing what you were already saying. My guess is we have all run into this at one time or another. Especially when it seems that kilt wearers are traditionally unorthodox (oxymoron?). Conflict will always move in our wakes.

Something else to keep in mind. All weddings have some familial pressures, and depending on your relationship to your family determine how much is dictated to you. My own wedding story would have been kilted but I owned naught at the time (well, a greatkilt, but it really wasn't formal enough), and buying or renting was out of the budget at the time (this was 11 years ago).

But, knowing I had to make a statement for me, I opted for tux shorts. The wife was okay, until her family and friends got involved. Then I just had to ask, was it her wedding or theirs?

Shorts won out.

Don't fault the bride or groom too much, sometimes the battle isn't worth fighting. Being as I was already known as cantankerous to both my family and hers, it wasn't real surprising that I would be somewhat recalcitrant to their interference.

So, I applaud your choice and also agree with a previous poster. Ask during your toast how the heck you get these silly pants off!

[Streetcar]

Give me a little credit, and possibly a little simpathy that I have to wear pants.

Adam

I'll do more than that. I'm expecting to be in Cinci a couple months from now, and I'd be happy to buy you a beer.
(And I wasn't intending a to slam, sorry if it came across that way...)