I don't think people were slamming, just reinforcing what you were already saying. My guess is we have all run into this at one time or another. Especially when it seems that kilt wearers are traditionally unorthodox (oxymoron?). Conflict will always move in our wakes.

Something else to keep in mind. All weddings have some familial pressures, and depending on your relationship to your family determine how much is dictated to you. My own wedding story would have been kilted but I owned naught at the time (well, a greatkilt, but it really wasn't formal enough), and buying or renting was out of the budget at the time (this was 11 years ago).

But, knowing I had to make a statement for me, I opted for tux shorts. The wife was okay, until her family and friends got involved. Then I just had to ask, was it her wedding or theirs?

Shorts won out.

Don't fault the bride or groom too much, sometimes the battle isn't worth fighting. Being as I was already known as cantankerous to both my family and hers, it wasn't real surprising that I would be somewhat recalcitrant to their interference.

So, I applaud your choice and also agree with a previous poster. Ask during your toast how the heck you get these silly pants off!