what else could I say??

[Archangel]

I think we all hear inappropriate things on a daily basis, so "The Question" shouldn't faze us. Has anyone ever bought a car and been asked "How much did you pay for it?, or "What's she like in bed?". Here's one that jumps off the charts; it was asked of me within six months of my wife's death, "Are you dating yet?". That one cut me to the quick so I lost my cool, but generally, I can deflect an innapropriate comment with a witty remark. "The Question" comes with the territory, so you can either have fun with it, or gently remind the person that it's simply not appropriate to ask. I like, "A lady doesn't ask, and a gentleman doesn't answer".

Yep, used that one too.

The dating one, yes, that was tacky. For people I care about I mark the calender at six months after a death. There's a point about that time where people feel it most and a friendly call seems to go over well.
Sorry about your loss.