Kilt and tuxes at wedding

[macwilkin]

Well there you go. You've got your unified look, and those who would be uncomfortable kilted don't have to wear one.

Well...I've been married for five years in September, so It's really a moot point with me.

T.

[Edward Teach]

Even Andy, the author of the link from above does not say all the wedding party should look alike.

I quote from his site...

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Here I have to be firmly proscriptive. Tuxedos (how I hate the dismal term!) are simply not appropriate for a daytime wedding. They are evening clothes. I know, I know. Everybody does it. Who cares any more? Right? Well, I concede that grooms can wear them if they want to. The fashion police won’t come to haul anyone away. But your clients will not look as elegant as they would were they to uphold tradition.
Once you know what time the wedding is, the next step is to decide its level of formality.

There are three:

1. Formal is “full dress”, all the stops, the full rig, etc.
2. Semi-formal is what most of us today consider “formal”; and
3. Informal is pretty much anything else.

Formal and semi-formal each have their own sets of rules based on time of day. Informal is mostly the same all day and night.

I suppose this is good a place as any to make a point that needs to be made. There is no need for the groom, his best man, and his ushers to match in every respect from neck to toe. In fact, it looks silly. Take a look at pictures from very elegant weddings in prior years, and you see that in fact the wedding party does not match.


Among its other problems, all-matching wedding parties just scream “rented clothes!” Certainly if the dress code is morning coat, then everyone in the party should wear a morning coat. But shirt, tie, vest, etc., can and should all be a little different. After all, we men are not robots.

Honestly, I would go with all the wedding party in kilts. Try and find someone who can rent you Prince Charlie or Argyle outfits.

[Big Paul]

I was the only one kilted at my wedding! If I had it to do over again I would have my groomsmen in kilt! It just looks great!

Just remind them that there is strength in numbers!!

[Archangel]

My friend wanted me to wear a kilt at his wedding. The others were up for it because it gave them a good excuse to try something they wanted to do. Suggest they get theirs a couple of days earlier to learn how to tie shoes, etc.

Don't worry if you're the only one, try and avoid the mid-day switcheroo. And, yes, keep everything muted so the bride looks better.

[Phil]

Don't worry if you're the only one, try and avoid the mid-day switcheroo. And, yes, keep everything muted so the bride looks better.

Until the 1800's it was always the men who dressed up in finery. Unless you plan on wearing a white wedding dress there's no way you are going to steal the bride's thunder so don't even think about it. You beside her fully kilted will only draw more attention to you both so start as you mean to continue and go kilted.

[Clockwork John]

If your bride is not wearing a formal gown, you may steal her thunder kilted. My wife wore a "semiformal" tea-length dress... It was strapless and only came to mid-calf. We both agreed that a kilt with a PC would have been too formal for that dress.

[Barb T]

When our daughter was married last June, the groom wore a kilt, as did the father of the bride, the piper, the two people who sang at the wedding, and many of the guests. The groomsmen did not wear kilts because one of the groom's brothers was adamant that he would not be in the wedding if he had to wear a kilt. I was upset initially, and so was our daughter, but she and her fiance felt very reasonably that how the people that they cared about felt at the wedding was important to them. They chose very simple, straight tuxes that looked great on all of the guys (all are _very_ tall), and the whole bridal party looked stunning. The bride and groom stood out beautifully, and everyone looked wonderful and was happy.

I think they were very wise to care about how people felt, and they worked it out so that everyone was happy and comfortable and looked great.

It was a very multi-cultural wedding anyway. One of the bridesmaids is Navajo, and she brought a Navajo wedding blessing ceremony for the bride and groom that was performed in a circular garden after the main wedding ceremony. It was truly wonderful.

Barb

[Kiltman]

When our daughter got married the end of August. The wedding party wore tuxes (the guys) and the father of the bride (me) wore a kilt. That was our daughters request. It looks just fine in the pictures. There are a lot of possible combinations.

[fhpdo]

I am getting re-hitched in less than a month. I will be the only one in a kilt, I was prepared to go the tux route, but my bride actually suggested the kilt. None of the other attendants will be kilted but they will be wearing almost identical suits and ties. We gave them guidelines on what to wear , but still left them some freedom to be individuals. I will be wearing a rented Prince Charlie ensemble with my American Heritage USA Kilt. I also rented a second kilt to take with us on our honeymoon cruise in Irish National tartan to wear with the Prince Charlie for the formal dinner.
John

[slohairt]

Alway good not to upstage a bride! I like the steeping back idea posted earlier.

At my wedding, the groomsmen and I wore my paternal grandmother's tartan: Graham of Montrose (we were fortunate to find a rental shop that carried it). We wore jabots, lace cuffs, fly plaids, everything.

Most of our wedding pictures were taken in black and white or sepia. But even in the colour pictures, it is surprising how little the groomsmen and I stand out! The dark tartan and black jacket tends to look very subdued next to a wedding gown that shines like a white beacon in every picture!