Family Kilt Theft

[Rex_Tremende]

I'm curious to know why you think your mother believes that two kilts in the closet are a barrier to your employability. What is the connection? Also, I looked at your profile on Linked In. It looks like you are trying to start your own business maybe? Is getting a job even in your plans?

Regards,
Rex.

[Larry124]

What Chase said…

Maybe sometimes “Tough Love” needs to be used in a “junior to senior” direction, especially when dealing with such clearly unacceptable behavior.

That being said, it’s not an amateur technique. Seek advice and assistance from a Legal, Family Counseling, or Religious professional.

[James MacMillan]

Family members, Mothers especially have a very stilted image of you. They see you with eyes that sometime have no bearing on the actual facts.

She probably means well, but this activity seems over the top. Arriving un-announced, is one thing, but theft of personal property is another.

It almost sounds as if this is a planned intervention of some sort.

What is your wife's opinion of your kilts? Is she supportive? With only two kilts, you must not be wearing them full time. You were at a business meeting without one of them, so you apparently dress "professionally" when dealing with business associates.

It’s some times bad that our legal system doesn’t have the ability to divorce your parents.

But at the end of the day, she will always be your Mother.

Keep your personal opinions to yourself, limit contact with her as much as possible. Remain civil. Work hard, become a success in your chosen area, and show her she is wrong about you, by becoming wealthy and independent. Change the locks on your doors. Do not allow anyone other than your wife to have access to your house or residence. If your children are old enough to understand, calmly explain the situation. Kilts are cheaper than trying to fight with family members over an extended period. The next time that you get a truly extra spare $30, get another casual kilt, and start over.

She obviously knows you well enough to understand which of your buttons to push to get a reaction.

Consider the kilts gone. They are replaceable

[davedove]

She probably means well, but this activity seems over the top. Arriving un-announced, is one thing, but theft of personal property is another.

It almost sounds as if this is a planned intervention of some sort.

That's my take on it. In her own mind, she's doing the right thing.

But as has been said, it's only an article of clothing. It's not doing drugs or anything like that. Her action is WAY over the top.

But also remember, this your mother and your wife's mother. Whether you like their actions or not, they are still family. Remain calm and reasonable, even if they are not.

[Jerry]

I agree with Mike.There are underlying issues here,possibly religious in nature.Since most of us know little of the Mormon church and religious discussion is prohibited on this board, I feel that the only proper advice to give is to discuss the issue with his church leaders.

[Caddy One]

I can see a small rebellion starting..........

[Daaaaang]

Dear religious leaders on this board: Please call Jordan's mother

[auld argonian]

Have your locks changed, get caller ID, get another kilt and be polite but firm about the fact that your clothing choices are your own business.

Best

AA

[Chef]

I think we need to be cognizant there seem to be some underlying issues at work in this situation, so let's try to keep our observations and suggestions above board, OK?

Family members can have problems one day and all can be forgotten the next, so try not to make comments that could eventually be seen as out-of-line.

Thanks!

I think Mike is right on here folks. It is not a good idea for us to give advice that will fuel the fire.

Jordan I don't know you and while I am very sorry that your Mom took off with your kilts; there are obviously issues going on that may have little to do with your kilts. While taking your kilts sounds out of line she obviously thought she was doing it for the right reason. With the holiday season so close I would suggest you call your Mom and just talk to her. She obviously has some concerns. Making ultimatums right now is not going to change her mind and will only lead to more problems later.

Good luck to you.

[RockyR]

Isn't pipesndrumsnun a nun? Isn't SHE a "religious counselor"? Perhaps she could make a small phone call or letter or at least email.

I agree with others that there seems to be some underlying issue, HOWEVER, stealing someone's clothing to force an "intervention" for wearing a kilt is not the way to go nor is it very "adult like" from your mother. Perhaps you can ask her when she's going out so that you can take her clothes out of her closet until she starts dressing in a way YOU'D approve. PLEASE NOTE: I'm not actually suggesting this, just making a point... if you did it to her, she'd be very upset.

She needs to grow up a bit and "cut the cord".