Kilt problem

[ccga3359]

You have every right to be upset. Unfortunatly it sound like he's still supporting you... tuition, roof, food. This isn't worth the fight, but indeed discuss it man to man. walk away if it starts to get heated again. It's possible he doesn't understand the heritage aspect of kilt wearing but rather the first step to cross dressing.

[auld argonian]

Both Arlen and CCGA have made excellent points. I'd just like to chime in with a bit of observation about the reactions that several of the people around me have had about my starting to wear a kilt. Some of these folks are of the opinion that I'm wearing it in an attempt to get attention...not the case; I'm just wearing it because I think that it's way cool and, hey, why not? But these guys are finding some deep, dark meaning here that just isn't there...but they can't be convinced that it isn't there....

In my case, they seem to think that it's some kind of middle-age crisis. In your case, it's possible that your dad is thinking that it's just a "phase" that you're going through and he may also think, like my friends and family members, that it's just something you're doing to get attention. The best way that I've found to help defuse the tension (and it's tension on their part, not mine) is to just carry on as if it's nothing to get excited about...don't dwell on it, don't get into long winded explanations or discussions or arguments...that just seems to fuel the fire. Certainly be considerate of your dad's feelings and, as Arlen suggested, ease into it by making a deal just to wear it on the holidays (and you'd be surprised just how many anniversaries of famous battles there are). And when you wear it, try to wear it well...the kilt fits well, good shoe and socks/hose choice, sporrran, appropriate shirt...may be try the necktie and vest look; that really tends to make the kilt look very legit and makes it look like you're used to wearing it.

Best of luck...there will always be people out there who will think it's off-beat to wear a kilt but you will get the odd compliment and that'll make it worth putting up with any negative vibes.

Best

AA